How Women Ruin Relationships

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How Women Ruin Relationships
The worse things women do to push away the men they love
Date: 02-21-2018
Time: 9pm-11pm CT
Host: Dr. Intimacy (Laneen A. Haniah)
Crew: Tinika “Southern Bell”, Bryan “Beezy” Wright & Desmond “Mr. Motion” Patterson
Featured Guest: Kaylon McFadden and Louis Medford
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There are so many unhappy men in relationships. On the flip side, there are a lot of dissatisfied single men that would rather remain alone than deal with the drama of a relationship. This may even be contributing to the “sex doll epidemic” that is going on right now! Are women really so bad that a man would rather have a blow-up doll than a real woman? Apparently so for some men. Others “tolerate” their woman but doesn’t feel she deserves monogamy. Then you have those that have stood the test of time but refuse to marry her. And there are those that struggle relentlessly to get it right, with frustrating results. Men, tonight you get to tell the ladies what we can do to improve the chances of “happily ever after” with that special someone. A lot of you are hurting – tonight we give you a voice. Join Dr. Intimacy and the #NoSocks Crew – Southern Bell, Beezy and Mr. Motion – along with our special guest, Musician, Writer, Artist and Record label owner K-Lon and co-host of 411 Sports Talk Radio, Louis Medford, as we delve into this#NakedDiscussion about the things women do to push men away and ruin the relationship! For grown folks only, strip all the way down, #NoSocks… Next on Inspired Intimacy Talk Radio!

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Happy Self-Love Day!

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So, National Loneliness Day… uh… er… um… I mean Valentine’s Day, is almost here once again. If you are lucky enough to be in a good relationship, you are probably looking forward to this day. But for millions of single people, this is a dreaded time of year. Let’s face it, you’re just recovering from holiday loneliness. For months you were bombarded with images of happy families and couples, and now, before you’ve even had a chance to enjoy the reprieve, it starts all over again. It seems like “love is in the air”, for everyone except you. Of course, you have the option to just ignore the day. It could just be another day for you. You don’t have to give it any regard at all. But, I have another idea – a radical notion! What if you were your own Valentine this year?

Regardless of its origins or intended meaning, Valentine’s Day has become a symbol of love. However, it’s not just any kind of love we honor on that day. It is the MOST INTIMATE kind of love we celebrate. Valentine’s is the one day a year that is set aside on the calendar, to celebrate the person that you love the most; the person that you have the deepest connection and intimacy with; the person whose presence in your life matters more than anyone else’s. Sure, it’s commercialized. Sure, Hallmark, Russell Stovers, 1-800-Flowers and Kay Jewelers are probably the driving forces behind all this “love”. But even if “love” is only pushed to the forefront as a smokescreen for a revenue increase, it’s still LOVE at the forefront. Any reason to appreciate love in your life, is a good enough reason!

That being said, why should love NOT be celebrated, just because you don’t happen to have a significant other at this time? As a matter of fact, my point precisely is that you DO have a significant other who deserves to be celebrated, and the significant other is – YOU! Who makes your coffee for you in the morning? Who supports your dreams? Who compliments you when have on a knockout outfit? Who treats you to lunch on hard days? And, who curls up on the couch with you to binge watch your favorite show? YOU DO! It’s all you.

Just think about it… Everything that a significant other will one day provide in your life, at this season of your life, you provide for yourself (hopefully with a few exceptions, lol). Aside from the love of GOD, Self-love is the greatest and most important love of all. It should also be the most intimate love you experience. When I say “intimate”, please understand that intimacy has nothing to do with sex. Intimacy at its core, is about familiarity and fondness; acceptance and support. Don’t you know yourself better than anyone else? Don’t you wake up every morning and accept yourself just as you are? Of course you do, and your love for yourself should be honored and appreciated, above any other person’s love.

So here is my radical idea: This year on Valentine’s Day, if you happen to be single currently, or in a relationship with someone who doesn’t celebrate you – CELEBRATE YOURSELF! Set the day aside to spend some quality with you. Write yourself a card. Buy yourself a gift. Take yourself out on a date. Make an occasion of it. Make you feel special on that day. Tell yourself how grateful you are for your own love, commitment and friendship. It might sound a little silly, but the truth of the matter is, you can’t do for someone else what you don’t know how to do for yourself.

If you don’t know how to celebrate yourself, you won’t know how to celebrate a significant other. If you don’t appreciate your own self-love, how can you appreciate someone else’s love? And if you happen to be the person reading this, who realized at some point during this short article that your self-love is lacking, this is your opportunity to acknowledge that and correct it. Maybe you are not being to yourself what you should be, in the absence of a significant other. Perhaps you are allowing certain areas of your life to be neglected, as you wait for that “special someone” to show up and treat you right. Well guess what? You are that special someone, and it is your obligation to treat yourself right, right now. So happy Valentine’s Day, from you, to you!

P.S. You can also spend the night with me! My weekly radio broadcast airs LIVE tonight from 9pm-11pm CST on FBRN.us. Watch the streaming video on FB or listen on the mobile app. You can even call in and chat with me. Find out more at www.facebook.com/InspiredIntimacy

Empowered by Love, Inspired by Intimacy
Laneen A. Haniah
~Dr. Intimacy, the Surgeon for Your Soul~
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The Power of Self-Love – when sex is NOT your god!

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The Power of Self-Love – when sex is NOT your god!
Date: 02-14-2018
Time: 9pm-11pm CT
Host: Dr. Intimacy (Laneen A. Haniah)
Crew: Tinika “Southern Bell”, Bryan “Beezy” Wright & Desmond “Mr. Motion” Patterson
Featured Guest: Kaylon McFadden
Watch on FB Live! www.facebook.com/InspiredIntimacy
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CALL-IN: (214) 431-5062

National Loneliness Day… uh… er… um… I mean Valentine’s Day, is here once again. If you are lucky enough to be in a good relationship, you’re probably looking forward to this day. But for millions of single people, this is a dreaded time of year. Valentine’s Day has become a symbol of love. However, it’s not just any kind of love we honor on this day; it is the MOST INTIMATE kind of love we celebrate. Aside from the love of GOD, Self-love is the greatest and most important love of all. It should also be the most intimate love you experience, but many people have confused sex with intimacy and lost the ability to truly love themselves. Join Dr. Intimacy and the #NoSocks Crew – Southern Bell, Beezy and Mr. Motion – along with our special guest, Musician, Writer, Artist and Record label owner Kaylon McFadden, as we delve into this #NakedDiscussion about THE POWER OF SELF-LOVE – overcoming the god of sex, to experience true intimacy with yourself! For grown folks only, strip all the way down, #NoSocks… Next on Inspired Intimacy Talk Radio!

Inspired Intimacy Talk — Naked Discussions about Love, Life & Intimacy… #NoSocks — is LIVE on FBRN Blue stream, every Wednesday night from 9pm-11pm CST, with Creator and Host Dr. Intimacy, crew and guests. Listen on mobile or online and CALL IN LIVE to ask a question or make a comment!

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The King vs the Fool: How to make a woman submit II


How to Make a Woman Submit II: The King vs. the Fool
Date: May 11, 2016

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The hottest topic to date in the history of the show, “How to Make a Woman Submit” had the phones ringing off the hook! So many of you were unable to say your piece, but now is your chance! On the next broadcast, Dr. Intimacy and special guest George Baker, will continue the conversation discussing the King vs. the Fool. In every man there is a KING and a fool. Will a woman submit to a fool? Does a king have a way of bringing a woman into submission without the resistance a fool encounters? We’ll find out next, on Inspired Intimacy Talk Radio! By the way, if you missed part I, here’s the replay link! https://soundcloud.com/inspiredi…/how-to-make-a-woman-submit
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LIVE on the Air w/Dr. Intimacy – The Difference Between a Woman & a Wife

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The Difference Between a Woman and a Wife

Date: May 4, 2016
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“A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor with The LORD.” We hear it quoted all the time, but what does it really mean? Have you ever thought about what makes a woman a wife? Is it simply a wedding ring and a court document? Or is it something more? Ladies, are you attracting the men you want to marry or characters you want to forget? Men, how do you know if you have found your wife or just another woman? Before you go on another date catch the next broadcast of Inspired Intimacy Talk Radio, as Dr. Intimacy and special guest Precious Graham talk about what it takes to attract and keep a man – the difference between a woman and a wife!
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HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN SUBMIT – Dr. Intimacy LIVE on the air Wednesday!

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HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN SUBMIT
Date: April 20, 2016
Time: 9pm-11pm CST
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Every man secretly wishes his woman would respect and obey him. He wants a woman who listens to him, agrees with him and submits to him. But in 2016, who can find this woman? Do submissive women really exist? Can a woman actually enjoy submitting? How can you establish yourself as the “Alpha Male” in your relationship? What’s the secret to getting a woman to submit to your manly authority and absolutely love it? Let’s talk about it on the next episode of Inspired Intimacy Talk Radio, with Dr. Intimacy and special guest Donald Graham Jr., author of Amazon best-seller, Loving Her Means Loving Him!

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The Three Stages of Being in Love – LIVE on the air tonight!

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The Three Stages Of Being “IN LOVE”

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Falling in love can be wonderful, but it can also be scary and overwhelming! How do you know if you’re really falling in love? Is it really true that falling in love “just happens” or is it a choice? What happens when people fall out of love? What can you do to ensure a good outcome? This and more as Dr. Intimacy continues to teach us what being in love is really all about!

Inspired Intimacy Talk Radio is LIVE on the air every Wednesday night from 9pm-11pm CST, with Creator and Host Dr. Intimacy, Co-Host Howard J. & Co-Producer J. Revival. Join us as we explore the naked truth about Love, Life, Intimacy!

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LOVE, Lust and Infatuation: How do you know the difference?

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LOVE, Lust and Infatuation: How do you know the difference?

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How do you know if someone is really in love with you, or just in lust? What is the difference between intimacy and infatuation? How does sex factor into it all? Most people desire true love with someone, only to end up in disastrous relationships because they don’t know how to distinguish between love, lust, and infatuation. Tonight on Inspired Intimacy Talk Radio, join host Dr. Intimacy, as she explores the principles of Love, Lust, Intimacy and Infatuation to get to the bottom of what it really means to be “in Love”. Don’t miss this dynamic broadcast!

Inspired Intimacy Talk Radio is LIVE on the air every Wednesday night from 9pm-11pm CST, with Creator and Host Dr. Intimacy, Co-Host Howard J. & Co-Producer J. Revival. Join us as we explore the naked truth about Love, Life, Intimacy!

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Ask Dr. Intimacy – Relationship/Sex Questions!

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Tonight on another addition of Ask Dr. Intimacy, I will be LIVE in the studio giving expert advice on those relationship/sex questions that nag so many of us – Real questions, from real people! We still have room left for a few more questions so be sure to either leave a comment or personally inbox your question while there’s still time. Or even better, call in and ask a question. You do not want to miss this edition of Inspired Intimacy Talk Radio!
Inspired Intimacy Talk Radio is LIVE on the air every Wednesday night from 9pm-11pm CST, with Creator and Host Dr. Intimacy, Co-Hosts Howard J. and Brendon “White Chocolate” Stewart & Co-Producer J. Revival.
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Are Dating Standards Judgmental?

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So, this past weekend I attended a community forum called, “Men vs. Women”. We all openly discussed issues of dating and relationships. One of the ladies asked a question about how to overcome being “judgmental”, stating that when she was on dates, she would immediately begin to pick out a man’s faults and disqualify him in her mind. (Not her exact words, but that was what I got from her question.) The other panelists gave her advice about not being judgmental and  offered her the old adage, “Nobody’s perfect”.
Now let me just say that the lady who asked the question was strikingly beautiful, and being someone who is very frequently told that I am exceptionally beautiful, I KNOW that pretty ladies can be stuck up at times . I admit this. I really had to work on this because pride can turn you from a princess into a frog in a flat second! But does being humble mean that I have to entertain the advances of every male that approaches me, and do so with an open heart and mind?
Something that men don’t understand about the life of an exceptionally beautiful female is that we get approached VERY FREQUENTLY. While that may sound nice, (and admittedly I do enjoy the attention :0) it can be detrimental to my focus.
Time is the most precious commodity on earth; it is more valuable than money to me. Money can be created, but time can never be refunded once spent! I have very lofty goals and never enough time, it seems, to accomplish them all. So as far as my time goes, I guard it tenaciously. As I have gotten older, (I’m 40 now), I have had to learn quick and easy ways to assess a man’s potential and keep it moving if he doesn’t meet basic qualifications. One of the ways I did this was taking the time to identify my major standards and core values. Once I identified them, I made a mental checklist and kept it handy.
The importance of standards is best explained like this. An inch is a standard unit of measurement. One dollar is a standard unit of money. A pound is a standard unit of weight. If I want to lose 20 lbs, I only know how much weight that is because I give regard to the standard and have a scale that is set to that standard to keep me on track. If I have to park within 12 inches of a parking meter to avoid getting a ticket, I only know how to measure that distance because I respect the standard unit of measurement.  If it costs $500 to pay my car note, I only know the significance of that cost because a standard unit of money exists that I understand and follow!
IF WE HAVE NO STANDARDS, HOW DO WE SET GOALS AND MEASURE RESULTS?
Knowing what you want and don’t want in a potential mate and being consciously aware of that during a meet and greet is NOT being judgmental. Boundaries are meant to keep us safe from unpleasant and/or dangerous experiences. If I, for instance, set a boundary or have a standard of only considering a non-smoker for a mate, it is not judgmental of me to use that guideline when considering a potential marriage candidate. I know how much I looovvvve to kiss. I also know how nauseating it’d be to kiss a smoker, so I already know that the quality of any relationship between me and this person would be greatly diminished.
I respect my time and his time too much to waste it for either of us, nor would I want to be misleading, so I just would not go there with him to begin with. However, I would NOT disqualify this person as a friend, or consider him to be any less valuable as a human being or as a member of the Body of Christ. If I did, that would be judgmental. But on the contrary, he would still have value to me as a person on this earth and possibly even as a friend in my life. I would just approach the continuation of the relationship with an awareness that he doesn’t have the core qualities I know I need in a man that I am going to SUBMIT TO as my Prophet, Priest and King.
One of the male panelist said that if we (us females) were to stop being judgmental and just give the brothers a chance, we might just be the woman that he changes for.
Uh… as far as him “changing for me”…
… ANGHHHHH (buzzer sound), WRONG ANSWER! LOL.
That is a HUGE mistake to make in dating ! Change is never permanent when only done to be acceptable to another human being. Anyone who changes to please you, will change back when they no longer care to please you. A person has to be truly transformed from the inside out and that is a very personal journey. Besides, if I’m sitting across the table looking at a guy saying, “Wow, he’d be a great husband if only he can change, ____, ____, and ____”… Well, now to me THAT IS BEING JUDGMENTAL!
I have to be able to unconditionally accept a man as he comes and be ready to surrender my life in dedication to him JUST THE WAY HE IS the day I meet him, so I better make darn sure that I want to do that. The truth of the matter is, he may never change or even see the need to. Who am I to want someone to live up to my personal standards? Why should he have to change for me, if he likes himself the way he is? I would not want a man to have such thoughts about me, so I cannot justify having them about someone else. He is FINE just the way he is, just not fine for me. And how how do I know that? Because I have standards to measure him by!
So sister girl, if you are being judgmental, I encourage you to humble yourself because beauty is fleeting and vain, and I can say the same things to you fellows out there. But maybe you are not judgmental after all. Perhaps you know it takes 12 inches to make a one foot ruler and you immediately recognize when it’s two inches off – hello! In other words, you have identified your standards and therefore can very easily identify anything that is outside of their measurement. That is not being judgmental or condescending or stuck-up or… any other labeled word. That is you valuing your time and respecting the other person’s time, while protecting everyone’s hearts and emotions.
Like I said Saturday though, to me the bottom line is that we really have to change the way we approach dating as a whole. It is more expedient and organic to just meet someone as a friend and learn to value them as a person, before trying to evaluate them as a mate. If you are not cool enough to be just my friend, why the heck would I want to consider spending the rest of my life with you? So before we call it a date, how about two people getting together as human beings and finding levels on which we can genuinely connect as people? Let’s practice intimate friendship, before we jump into bed and trip into marriage.
I’m just saying…

Ask Dr. Intimacy – Oral sex, sex demons, common law marriage and more!

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Dr. Intimacy is known for bringing the raw truth that liberates people from the chains that bind them. Thousands all around the world would love to sit down and ask her a question about a personal situation. Tonight, take a trip to the spiritual ER and allow Dr. Intimacy to go inside and heal you, as she tackles some of the most common questions asked of her by people from around the globe. One of your personal questions will probably be answered too! Please tune in, you do not want to miss this life changing show!

Inspired Intimacy Talk Radio is LIVE on the air every Wednesday night from 9pm-11pm CST, with Creator and Host Dr. Intimacy, Co-Hosts Howard J. and Brendon “White Chocolate” Stewart & Co-Producer J. Revival.

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OverWeight Love w/Comedian THE Pastor Fred!

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What promises to be our most exciting and FUNNIEST show yet, renowned comedian THE Pastor Fred, recently featured on the Kid Kraddick Show will be our special guest on The Inspiring Intimacy Talk Radio Show tommorow! Tune in on September 16, 2015 AT 9pm CST (10pm EST) at FBRN.us in the Blue Bowl! You don’t want to miss your chance to listen LIVE so you can call in with your questions and comments!!! All info for tuning in is below. LET’S SHARE LIFE!

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Intimate Confessions: Your Words Frame Your Relationship!

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Intimate Confessoins: Don’t ever think that you can stop saying “I love you” to the one you love. The day you think you don’t have to say it anymore, is the day that you are leaving the future of your relationship to chance. In your silence, the enemy is always speaking.

Tip: If satan could talk the woman out of believing what God said, how much more can he talk your lady or guy out of believing what you have said? Don’t be foolish! Words are life and power. You frame your relationship with the words you speak: If you are not framing it with your words, it is being framed by the words of someone or something else. SPEAK LIFE EVERYDAY!

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The Inevitable Break

broken cupLast week I discovered that one of my favorite coffee mugs had a large crack across the bottom and up both sides. Although the mug had maintained its form, it was obvious that the crack would eventaully result in a break. I should have thrown the glass away at that point, but because it was one of my favorites, against my better judgement, I kept the glass and continued to use it. The first couple of times I used it, all was well. I washed it several times, and still all was well. After a while, I became confident that the glass would hold up and began to ignore the inevitable and impending break.

This morning, I opened up a brand new box of my favorite gourment instant coffee. I poured it into my favorite, but defective mug, with all confidence that I would momentarily be sipping on some deliciousness. I poured in the coffee powder and the hot water and began to stir. It was then that I heard the unmistakable, creaking sound of the glass cracking. The pressure from the heat put too much strain on the crack and it was about to break. I put the cup down and turned to run to try and get another glass, but before I could take one step, the glass exploded apart and my gourment coffee was spilling all over the place. Not only did the glass break and the coffee spill but the spilled liquid got all over my carpet, seeped under my blu-ray player, saturated a surround sound speaker and got on my clothes.

My dominating thought at the moment was, “I should have thrown this away when I first realized that the break was inevitable!” When it was all said and done, not only did I have to throw the glass out anyway, I also had to throw out the speaker and blu-ray player and spend a lot of time cleaning up the mess that was left behind.

MORAL OF THE STORY: This is how relationships are at times. The relationship is deeply cracked from the inside-out and there is no way to fix it. You can see the crack and an eventual break is inevitable, but because this person means so much to you, you continue to function as if all is well. You ignore the warning signs and keep pouring more into it, expecting to enjoy a benefit that you will never reap, not considering what you can lose or what it may cost you.  You don’t consider what may happen when the contents of the inevitable break seep into other areas of your life. When the ill effects of all of the lost emotion, time, energy and effort that you have continuously poured into the relationship begin to affect your other relationships, your job, your health, your ministry, your goals, etc., not only will it damage or destroy those things, it will cost you time to clean up the messy aftermath of the break!

Although there was no way for me to prevent the glass from breaking, once it was cracked, I could have greatly mitigated my damages by heeding the warning signs; throwing the glass out when I first knew the break was inevitable. Just like a cracked glass will eventually break under the pressure of hot liquid, so will a defective relationship inevitably break under the pressure of life’s challenges. Relationships never end without warning. Heed the warning and cut your lossess before they become even more expensive.

Never pour something valuable into something broken…

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