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Update: New Teachings on Incubus/Sex Demons

There has been a great demand for more teaching on this topic so I have been doing a teaching series on my YouTube page. Please check it and subscribe so you won’t miss any of these teachings. I will add a new teaching after the holiday but there are 6 in the series so far.

Is Sexual Sin Caused by a Spirit?

While visiting another blog that addresses homosexuality amongst “so-called believers” (that is the author’s sentiment, not necessarily mine); I was struck by a statement that the author made. He was debating the existence of “the spirit of homosexuality”, claiming that people used the idea of demonic possession as an excuse to continue on in sin.  In his opinion, people sin by choice alone, influenced solely by their own sin nature and the spirit of lust. He was particularly disturbed that he had observed Pastor Benny Hinn “casting out” a spirit of homosexuality. And it may be good to mention that the gentleman that authored the article, formerly lived as a homosexual and has since dedicated himself to being a voice against it. Needless to say, he is very passionate about what he shares. His view is simply this, “There is  no spirit of heterosexuality and thus no spirit of homosexuality.”  

I thought his article brought up a very good question: Is sexual sin caused by a spirit?

I tend to agree with pastor Benny on this point. I do believe there is a spirit of homosexuality. As a matter of fact, I believe that nearly every sinful or demonic act is influenced by a particular type of demonic spirit. The author of the aforementioned article, as well as many other people, focus too greatly on how demons are named in the bible. When the truth of the matter is, the names of demons are not all that significant; it is their function and their type that matters. So you may not always see demons “named” in the Bible, but their functions and types are clearly outlined. In other words, their type is made plain by what they do; the fruit they produce in the life of the person they are affecting.

How often did we see YHshua (Jesus) cast demons out of people to heal them of an illness? “When evening had come, they brought to Him many who were demon-possessed. And He cast out the spirits with a word, and healed all who were sick.”  Mat 8:16, NKJV

Even in the case of Mary Magdalene, she was delivered from prostitution by the casting out of 7 demons. Now when He rose early on the first day of the week, He appeared first to Mary Magdalene, out of whom He had cast seven demons.” Mark 7:9, NKJV (Her prostitution is “implied” in other scriptures. She was referred to specifically as “an especially wicked sinner”.)

In actuality,  the bible very seldom identified demonic spirits by a name.  Evil spirits were identified as being – evil, wicked, unclean, perverse and so on – but seldom by an actual distinct name.  And Jesus summoned to Him His twelve disciples and gave them power and authority over unclean spirits, to drive them out, and to cure all kinds of disease and all kinds of weakness and infirmity.” Mat 10:1, AMP

Ok… So if there is now a clear understanding that demons are acknowledged, but not necessarily named, in scripture – let’s deal with the next point:“There is  no spirit of heterosexuality and thus no spirit of homosexuality.”

This statement actually made me laugh. It was borderline ridiculous, in my opinion. We do not need different spirits or “type spirits” of righteousness; such as a “spirit of heterosexuality” (if heterosexuality is being implied to be a good thing in this instance, within the confines of a marriage). We don’t need a “spirit of kindness”, “spirit of truth”, “spirit of sobriety”, etc.  In order to live righteously, there is only need of One Spirit and that is, The Holy Spirit. All righteous living is a result of the Spirit of  YHWH God at work in our lives. He is the Spirit of Truth, Spirit of Love, Spirit of Obedience… He is the very source of all that is good and right; including pure, loving intimacy between a husband and wife (heterosexuality).

In terms of heterosexual sin, sex taking place outside of the confines of marriage, that influence would be typed as a “spirit of fornication”. But in essence at the end of the day, all sexual sin – all sin of any type for that matter – is influenced by  “the spirit of lust”. The term “spirit of lust” is actually the very definition of  ‘satan’. So all sin is influenced by the spirit of satan, and likewise all righteousness is influenced by “the Spirit of YHWH God”! But the Spirit of YHWH God is omni-present because He can be everywhere, and in everyone all at once. The spirit of satan is not so. He and his cohorts are limited to influencing or indwelling only one person at a time. So satan sends out his workers like soldiers, in groups specifically assigned and trained to do (or cause) specific acts of disobedience and/or types of oppression.

So the question is: Is sexual sin caused by a spirit?

The answer is: Yes and No! 

Just as the presence of the Holy Spirit can cause you to live righteously, the presence of a “Helly” spirit can cause you to live wickedly. I believe that ignorance concerning the workings of demonic spirits in our lives causes so many Christians to live a defeated life. Identifying an evil spirit does not give us an excuse to sin; it gives us ammunition to stop sinning! Naming a spirit according to its type, is just a way of specifying how the spirit of satan is working in your life more precisely. This is actually very empowering, giving insight into what weaknesses the enemy takes advantage of, to interfere with the abundance of our lives – spirit, soul and body! After all, YHshua never cast satan out of anyone, he always cast out demons. Nor does scripture say he cast “lust” out of Mary Magdalene. It says he cast out seven demons.

My only precaution on the ‘no’ side of my answer would be using the word “cause”, since you can only be “influenced” to sin, instead of forced. We all get to choose our own path and which spirit’s influence we give in to (unless one is truly “possessed” from childhood – but that’s another topic!) So although different spirits of evil may be the cause of sin in your life, it is because of your own choice that such sin is actually manifested.

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

Copyright © 2012 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright and legal notices on this page.

The Spiritual Booty Call

Maybe you saw the movie, “Booty Call”. It was a comical depiction of a man’s sex drive. In the movie it may have been funny, but I get a lot of inquiries and prayer request for people dealing with what I call “the spiritual booty call”. Most of us know what a natural booty call is. It’s when a person calls on another person during sleeping hours primarily for the purpose of a sexual rendezvous. Well a spiritual booty call is pretty much the same, except it is not a person that is seeking a late night romp but instead a demon. If you have experienced this before I know your heart is probably beating faster right now as you are thinking,“OMG, other people experience this too!” If you have never experienced this before you might be thinking I am off of my rocker. But I’m not – spiritual booty calls are real and the demons responsible for them are commonly referred to as “incubus” or “succubus”. You can find the definitions right in the dictionary ( as quoted below:

Incubus: 1: an evil spirit that lies on persons in their sleep; especially: one that has sexual intercourse with women while they are sleeping

Succubus:  a demon assuming female form to have sexual intercourse with men in their sleep

Whenever we are talking about demons, always remember not to put too much merit into the common names that they are called by. Spirits go by many names; even God and satan are identified by numerous names and titles in the Bible. Incubus and Succubus are simply lust demons. Whether or not you are being attacked by these spirits is usually pretty obvious. They manifest themselves to your conscious mind and cause you to experience all of the stimulation and physical feelings that take place during intercourse or sexual contact with a physical person. These spirits are also responsible for sex dreams: those are dreams during which you are engaged in sexual contact or intercourse, or dreams in which your body has a spontaneous orgasm.

A less obvious way that these spirits afflict people is by causing overwhelming sexual urges in the body. You will know that you are being attacked by demons if the sexual urges are so strong that they completely take over your mind. This can happen at any time but tend to be most common when you are lying down. You cannot think about anything else and it seems like nothing you do to make the urges go away works (i.e. a cold shower, involving yourself in another activity, shifting positions, etc.) It would seem that the only relief for the “deadly” urge is to have an orgasm by any means necessary. Sometimes you will have the orgasm spontaneously and they are usually more intense than usual. If you have these types of urges THEY ARE NOT NORMAL.

Understanding why these spiritual booty calls take place will help doubters believe and victims find deliverance. If you read in the Bible in Genesis chapter 6 you will read an account of demon spirits that took on human form so they could have sex with human women. The women became pregnant and gave birth to abnormal children. Incubus and Succubus are the same class of demon that operated in those times, only now they are looking to impregnate you spiritually. The assignment of these demons is to impregnate you with perversions and cause you to birth out spiritual abnormalities.

An encounter with an incubus or succubus spirit will usually leave you feeling drained because they steal virtue from you and in its place impregnate you with perversion and lust. That is why they also cause nightmares. Nightmares impregnate you with fear therefore perverting your faith. Why these spirits like to induce fear through nightmares is because fear brings on a desire to seek out comfort. Sexual activity, especially sexual fantasy and masturbation, provide temporary comfort.

This is a common problem that many people experience. For more information on how to get delivered from incubus and succubus spirits, please visit the dedicated page on this blog. You will see the pages listed there to the left of the screen.

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.

Regional Strongholds

I want to broaden your perspective today. Have you ever considered the “energy” around you when you travel to a new location? By location, I mean any place outside of your home. What is the energy like on your job? How about your church? What about the energy in your city compared d to the energy in another city that you have visited?

When we get right down to it, what we refer to as a “demon” or “spirit” is simply “energy”.  A demon is a force of negative energy. Satan is the ultimate source of all negative energy. An angel is a force of positive energy. The Lord I AM is the ultimate source of all positive energy. Negative energy can take on different forms: anger, hatred, violence, depression, discouragement, etc. Positive energy is likewise: joy, peace, love, charity, unity and such.

The dominating form of negative energy in an area is what I call a “Regional Stronghold”. With a gift of discernment, or spiritual insight, you can sense the regional stronghold of an area. Most people do not have spiritual insight though. However, you can still ascertain what the regional stronghold of an area is by evaluating the activity around you. Is there a high murder rate? Is there a higher percentage of poverty or domestic abuse or teenage pregnancy? Do people seem to be generally angry, sad or detached?

The most prominent emotional state, religious beliefs and dominating social issues in an area are clues to what the regional strongholds are. As you journey through life, it is very important that you learn how to pay attention to regional strongholds. They can have a profound impact on your mood, behavior, perception and productivity and easily transform unsuspecting victims into their likeness. As you read my bookThe Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook, you will learn more about how spirits of sexual perversion are responsible for so much more negative activity, than just the physical acts of illicit sex that they influence.

For instance, America is a nation that is laden with spiritual fornication. We sing “God Bless America” at every major event; yet at the same time we promote same-sex marriages, abortion, drunkenness, witchcraft, violence, gluttony… and the list goes on and on. We want the pleasures of God without making any type of sacrifice to commit to Him. This country wants His blessings, but not His Law. We want His protection, but don’t want to honor His name.

This is the country where musicians that sing about and glorify every damnable thing in satan’s kingdom can say, “I would like to thank God for this” when they win a Grammy.     As I explain in the book, under the influence of fornication you readily “acknowledge” God, it’s just that you have no intimacy with Him. Fornication is definitely one of the dominating regional strongholds that govern this country, which means that every corporation, organization, church, home and individual human being  is highly susceptible to its influence.

Once you read the book and learn more about the different spirits of sexual perversion, make it part of your study course to look for the manifestations of spiritual perversion in the places you visit from now on. Look for it on your job, in your church, and at your friend’s homes. It will probably surprise you how much they show up around you. Please realize that these regional strongholds are a powerful, massive force of negative energy that will war for your deliverance every day.

The victory is already yours, but awareness and vigilance is the key to claiming it. Know also that as much as there is negative energy around you, there is positive energy, or angels, around you even more so. The more intimate you become with God, the more you will recognize and be able to take advantage of the force of protection He has built around.

In the Power of Love,

 Dr. Intimacy

 Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.

STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons

STDs 2013 4I want to school you on STDs – no, not “sexually transmitted diseases”. I’m talking about spiritual STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons! Did you know that demonic spirits can be transferred to you during sex and/or sexual activity? Did you ever notice how people change once they begin to have sex? You probably have taken note of it in a friend or relative in the past, but never equated it to sexual activity. Just think about it, your cousin Quan’teeka starts dating Bone Thug from the block and after a couple of weeks you say to her,“Girl, you’ve changed.” Or maybe even in your own life, you took on a new love and your friends and family kept telling you that you changed, even though you couldn’t see the changes!

You probably relate to what I am saying, but probably have always equated such changes just to the new relationship itself and not the reality of STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons. Every demon has a nature and specific corresponding characteristics. That is why groups of people who have no connection to each other but that are infested with the same type of demonic spirit, behave in very similar ways. We call them “stereotypes” but they are nothing less than “familiar spirits” that shape the character and personality of those that they influence. Hmmm… that’s something to think about, isn’t it?

When two people have sex, those two people become one. The same way that the physical bodies of the man and woman lock together and become one interlocked unit, so do their soul and spirit bodies. Every human being consists of three distinct bodies — spirit, soul and flesh – that function in unity with one another, as one unit. Each of those bodies operate in a different realm and each impacts the interactions of your entire human experience. Sexual activity causes two people to connect and become one in all three realms, thus allowing for the transmission of demonic spirits from one person to the other – the same way that sexual activity allows for the transmission of venereal diseases, such as chlamydia, herpes and HIV, from one person to another.

What I am trying to get you to understand is that those changes that take place in your life after you get into a sexual relationship with someone are not a coincidence! They are a direct result of sexually transmitted demons. Have you ever done or said something that you found very uncharacteristic for yourself and thought, “Where in the world did that come from?”This happens as a result of different demonic spirits that  you pick up, usually through sex. The unfortunate thing about it is that most people are completely oblivious to the reality of spiritual STDs, and even once they do become aware of them; it is often too little, too late.

You may think that you can pick up a sexually transmitted demon and just go to the spiritual free clinic (church), and get a dose of spiritual antibiotics (prayer) and go on about your business, unaffected by what you’ve done. But this is not so. Just as there are some sexually transmitted diseases that there are no cure for, there are some sexually transmitted demons that will stay with you indefinitely. Some venereal diseases cause permanent damage to the body such as impotence, erectile dysfunction, uterine pain, cervical and prostate cancer and worst of all – sterility (not being able to produce offspring)! Sexually transmitted demons can have the same impact on your destiny and purpose in the spirit realm!!!

I really want you to think about this carefully. We often take sex so frivolously, regarding it as just a physical act. But I assure you that sex is much more spiritual than it is physical and even if you can use a condom to prevent the transmission of natural STDs, there is no condom to protect yourself from the transmission of spiritual STDs. Abstinence is the only way – preserving sex for the confines of Holy Matrimony.

If you want to know more about sexually transmitted demons, you need to pick up my book. It is entitled, “STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons”. Find out how to buy it on this page:  STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons, 2013 Edition.

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.