The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Reference Book 2013 Edition, It’s Finally Here!!!

The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Reference Book 2013 front cover

The first edition of this book, published in 2004, has been read all over the world in countries such as Nigeria, London, Canada, Australia and Germany. The most unique book ever of its kind; it delves deeply into the subject matter of God-designed sexuality, sexual sin and how sex is relative to our worship of God. Thousands of church leaders and lay people have received help in getting understanding and true deliverance concerning issues of sexual perversion. Many more, including those outside of the church, have been touched and encouraged by Laneen’s transparency in sharing her powerful testimony.

The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Reference Book, 2013 Edition includes significant enhancements. Enjoy a dedicated chapter on “sex demons”, also referred to as incubus. There is a new chapter for married couples. Along with these additions, you will find 11 different spirits of sexual perversion discussed in deep and insightful detail, each in its own designated chapter. Also, enjoy powerful application revelations in a section entitled “Insights from Dr. Intimacy”. What you can count on that has not changed is Dr. Intimacy’s heart felt transparency and compassion, which encourages you every step of the way as you read God’s Handbook on Sex Education — The Encyclopedia of Christian Sexuality! Prophetess Laneen Haniah, a prolific author and lecturer better known as “Dr. Intimacy”, gives an enlightening look into the naked truth about sex, intimacy and worship from a holistic perspective.

A COMPLETE GUIDE TO UNDERSTANDING SEXUALITY, INTIMACY WITH GOD AND THE ENEMY’S DEVICES OF SEXUAL PERVERSION!

•God’s purpose for sex

• Sexual blood covenants

• Satan’s true motive for perversion

• Intimacy guidelines for marriage

• Seeing perversion when it’s not physically present

• Recognizing perversion in the church

• 12 Steps to deliverance

• Knowing how to tell when you’re free

• Fornication

• Masturbation

• Adultery

• Incest

• Homosexuality

• Intersexuals

• Prostitution

• Pornography

• Molestation

• Bestiality

• Sexual Lust

• Incubus

• Promiscuity

Order now on www.DrIntimacy.com , also available on amazon.com

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The Devil Wants to Steal Your Worship!

the devil

The two foundational and most critical revelations that I teach are:

1) Yahweh wants to share spiritual intimacy with us in the same way He designed for couples to experience physical intimacy in marriage;

2) The devil’s only agenda in sexual perversion is to steal your worship!

If you get a firm and insightful understanding of these two important truths, your battle with sexual perversion is already half over. So let’s explore the real reason satan is so after your worship, by taking a look at some scriptures in Job.

8“Then the Lord said to Satan, “Have you considered My servant Job, that there is none like him on the earth, a blameless and upright man, one who fears God and shuns evil?”  9Satan answered the Lord and said, “Does Job fear God for nothing? 10Have You not made a hedge around him, around his household, and around all that he has on every side? You have blessed the work of his hands, and his possessions have increased in the land. 11But now, stretch out Your hand and touch all that he has, and he will surely curse You to Your face!” (Job 1: 8-11, NKJV)”

I have heard this text preached many times and in many ways, but I never heard it presented the way the Holy Spirit showed it to me one day, as I was preparing for a conference. He opened up the eyes of my understanding so I could see that this entire story is really about worship. The way the text is translated makes it appear as if The LORD invited satan to attack Job, but this was actually not the case. The context clues of Job chapter 1 make it apparent that the LORD and satan were engaged in a dialogue about satan’s activity on the earth. As satan was being true to his nature, probably bringing heinous accusations against the earth  and boasting about the legal right he had to cause destruction due to people’s sins; Yahweh responded by defending His creation through the example of Job and pointed out to the accuser that His Righteousness was still exalted on the earth. It seems that the conversation probably was something to this effect.

So looking at verse 8 where it reads, “have you considered”, in a different translation of the Hebrew that phrase could mean “have you violently laid a hand upon”. Then when you look at the word “fear” in that same verse that word can also be translated “worship”. So if we read the text again with these different translated meanings, it would read as follows: “’Then the Lord said to satan ‘have you violently laid a hand upon my servant job, there is none like him on the earth, a blameless and upright man, one who worships me and shuns evil?’” This was a taunting dialogue for the enemy because the point that God was making, which is made clear through examining satan’s response, is that Job was under divine protection due to his lifestyle of consistent worship and righteousness.

In chapter 1, The Father lifts His divine protection from Job’s life and gives the enemy liberty to afflict all that he owns. Satan destroys everything in Job’s life, but is not permitted to afflict Job’s physical body. Satan then returns to converse with God and this is what is said in chapter 2:3-5 (using revealed translation) 3Then the Lord said to Satan, “Have you violently laid a hand upon My servant Job, there is none like him on the earth, a blameless and upright man, one who worships God and shuns evil? And still he holds fast to his integrity, although you incited Me against him, to destroy him without cause.” 4So Satan answered the Lord and said, “Skin for skin! Yes, all that a man has he will give for his life. 5But stretch out Your hand now, and touch his bone and his flesh, and he will surely curse You to Your face!”

For many years the book of Job disturbed me because of this phrase in verse 3, “although you incited Me against him, to destroy him without cause”. I asked myself, “Why would Yahweh deliberately stir up satan’s wrath against a blameless and upright man?” It was in searching for an answer to this question that the revelation was made clear. What The God of All Wisdom was really saying is, “You dared me to challenge the worship of Job, my servant. You challenged me to prove to you satan that his intimacy with me means more than all that he has! You provoked me to prove to you that I can allow you to take away all that I have given him and he will still worship me!”

When the Holy Spirit showed me this, I was blown away. Job had experienced the richness of worship and intimacy with The Creator and because of that nothing else mattered to him. Although his possessions were valuable, HIS WORSHIP WAS PRICELESS. That is why even when his wife came against him, he still would not curse God; when Job’s marital intimacy stopped, he still had his worship intimacy with Yahweh. What satan was really after was not Job’s possessions. Satan has access to every earthly possession and wealth imaginable. What he wanted was Job’s worship. He despised, with green envy, the intimacy between Job and the LORD.

Look at all that the enemy did to Job, and yet Job never cursed – or attempted to break his covenant – with The Father. The devil knows this to be the nature of the heart of all TRUE worshippers. Once satan loses you to intimacy with Your Creator, it is unlikely that he will ever retrieve you! He doesn’t care if you have a gift; or work in ministry; or sow large offerings; or fast and pray for long periods in pursuit of selfish ambitions, but he never wants you to experience the fullness of worship and intimacy!  

This is why he so desperately wants to keep you locked into sexual perversion. If you win the battle over sexual sin, you will be transformed into a beautiful and holy vessel of pure worship. And the enemy knows that in that kind of pure worship, there is the release of everything else that Yahweh has for you. Everything is hidden in your intimacy with Him. Satan wants to steal your worship. He wants to steal your blessing, he wants to steal your destiny. In Job 29 we see an even clearer picture of what Job’s worship gave birth to in his life:

2“Oh, that I were as in months past, As in the days when God watched over me; 3When His lamp shone upon my head, And when by His light I walked through darkness; 4Just as I was in the days of my prime, When the friendly counsel of God was over my tent; 5When the Almighty was yet with me, When my children were around me; 6When my steps were bathed with cream, And the rock poured out rivers of oil for me!”

In these verses, as Job reminisces on the way life was before his affliction, notice that he does not mention his possessions. He paints a picture of divine protection, divine favor, divine guidance, divine prosperity, divine wisdom, divine fellowship, divine multiplication, divine ease of living, and a consistent flow of The Anointing! Wow, WOW, W-O-W!!!

There is so much more than just your sexual purity that the enemy wants to take away from you when he sets himself to afflict you with sexual perversion. What he is really after is your worship because all of the blessings that Job enjoyed are connected to your worship. Furthermore, worship is required for The Anointing to flow in your life. So the very next time you are tempted to masturbate, have illicit sex, watch porn, cheat on your spouse, lay with the same sex, be sexually inappropriate with a relative, sell your body for sex, violate a child, molest an animal or lust in your heart – please hear these words ringing loudly in your spirit: THE DEVIL WANTS TO STEAL YOUR WORSHIP! As a matter of fact, say it out loud to yourself three times as loud as you can:

THE DEVIL WANTS TO STEAL MY WORSHIP!

THE DEVIL WANTS TO STEAL MY WORSHIP!

THE DEVIL WANTS TO STEAL MY WORSHIP!

And then, DON’T LET HIM!!!

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Breaking the bonds of sexual perversion ~ Healing the bonds of heart-2-heart intimacy

www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2013 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright and legal notices on this page.

Who Is Dr. Intimacy?

It always amuses me when I observe the surprising look on people’s faces when they hear me introduced as “Dr. Intimacy”. This is especially true when it comes to males who find me attractive. I can see the alarms go off in the thoughts of those I encounter — alarms of judgment, fear, sexual lust and much more. Let me make it clear; I do discuss sex quite a bit on my blog, in my books and in life in general. However, the core of my heart is illuminated with the LOVE Nature of The Creator and the True Intimacy that the authentic Love Nature of God produces in people.

Sex is a natural desire in every human being because it is the ultimate physical expression of what we think love is. However, always remember that having sex can never be used to create intimacy. Sex is either an expression of intimacy that already exists, or an exposure of intimacy that is not present. “Intimacy” is not something that you do, it is rather something that you are; intimacy not an activity; it is a nature. Allowing the Love Nature of God to illuminate your being will cause you to experience relationships with people and sex with your significant other like never before.

Understanding this, is a beginning to understanding who “Dr. Intimacy” really is. I’m not here to teach you the physical mechanics of sex; I am here to teach you how to be FREE in intimacy – Intimacy with God, yourself, your lover, your family, your friends and this world that we live in. On this blog we will be learning the nature, exploring the expression and dispelling the fears of authentic love – guiding us through the experience of  “Becoming Intimacy”.

The Naked Truth About Sex and all issues related to intimacy and relationships will be discussed openly and frequently because sex is the physical equivalent of spiritual intimacy. Therefore, through exploring sexual relations we will begin to unravel the mysteries of intimacy. We will explore scripture as well. The Bible is The Creator’s Love Letter to His Creation. He is LOVE. Through studying the Words that He has shared with us, we will understand more about how to conceive His Love Nature in our own lives and give birth to true intimacy.  The Bible is a road map for our journey and I will be your tour guide, unleashing the modern-day relevance of scripture as it relates to true intimacy.

You might be wondering how I became so involved in this topic.  I will be using this blog to post personal stories, testimonials, and bits of my autobiography — whatever I feel led to share — from time to time.  You might read some things that shock you. Believe me, I’m not trying to shock you or impress you. As the Bible clearly states, we overcome satan by the Blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony! (Rev 12:11). This is my only agenda in sharing my testimony. I want you to know that I am speaking from experience and not looking down on anyone from a platform of judgement and disgust. As I share my life with you, it will become clear why I became so passionate about this topic. To get to know me better visit the “Who Is Dr. Intimacy?” category. Feel free to leave your comments.

In the Power of Love,

 Dr. Intimacy

 Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

 www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.

Understanding Intimacy Part 1: Why Did God Create Sexual Intimacy?

Anything you don’t understand, you are bound to abuse. That is why scripture admonishes us in Proverbs 4:7 to get understanding in all that we get; for wisdom truly is the principle thing. Before you can can really grasp anything else I write about on this blog, you are going to have to get a good grasp on the core foundational revelation upon which this whole ministry was built.  I will be sharing this revelations with you in the “Understanding Intimacy Series” which will be contained in a number of posts. If you plan on being a regular follower of this blog and really want a deeper understanding of wholesome intimacy and deliverance from sexual perversion, study this series carefully. All of the information in this series is taken directly from my book, “The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook: Updated 2012 Edition which can be ordered at www.drintimacy.com” To find all post in this series visit The Understanding Intimacy Series – All Post.

I believe that the three greatest weaknesses of humanity in the flesh are: 1) The need to eat; 2) The need to sleep; and 3) The urge to have sex. I note these three needs to emphasize how the spirits of sexual perversion work. They take advantage of one of the greatest weaknesses of the flesh – our God-given desire to have sex.

God told man and woman in the book of Genesis to, “…Be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth…(Gen 1:28)” There is of course spiritual significance to what God said to them on that day, but there is also natural, practical significance. In laymen’s terms God was basically saying, “I command you to have sex and lots of it!” This may be a little hard to swallow because of our perception of sex. We generally think of sex as something forbidden, naughty or perverse. Let us consider it practically though.

In order  for them to multiply (in its most literal sense meaning to have children) they would have to engage in intercourse to afford conception an opportunity. Then in order to replenish the earth, which is a tall order to fill, they would have to engage in intercourse often so that they might improve the likelihood of frequent conception. Another point to consider is the fact that when God gave this command people did not wear clothing. All of us who are, or once were, sexually active would probably agree that the absence of clothing often times stirs sexual desire. This is especially true if you are in a relationship with someone who you are highly attracted to and in love with. There is no reason to believe there were any exceptions to this basic instinct at the dawn of creation. Yahweh is a very deliberate God and all of this was by no means a coincidence! Thus, the truth of the matter is that God created us to frequently engage in and enjoy sexual intimacy.

What we have to realize is that because man was created in the image and likeness of the Lord God Almighty (Gen 1:26), humanity was created in Holy Perfection. Everything about man (and woman) was good and pure at the time of creation, including the act of sex. But once sin entered into the earth, it perverted everything God had created on the earth. How did sin enter into all of creation on earth considering that humanity alone committed sin? This is because all of creation on earth was under man’s dominion.

Once humanity became corrupt, all that we had dominion over became corrupt along with us. Sin had entered into man and corrupted us in our entirety. The corruption of sin caused us to be separated from Elohim the Creator and without that connection to God, all of creation and everything about it became perverse and evil. That is one of the reasons why David says in the book of Psalms, “I was shapen in iniquity, and in sin did my mother conceive me. (Ps 51:5, KJV)” The act of sex is just another part of what was perverted by sin at the fall of humanity. So now we understand that God actually ordained sexual intimacy and that sex is not bad, but we still need to understand why Yahweh implemented sexual intimacy as a part of the normal routine of humanity.

First off, it is important to understand that everything that exists in the natural world exists first in the spiritual world. The Bible teaches us that God is a Spirit and indicates that His Kingdom is a spiritual one (John 4:24; 14:17; Mat 12:28, 16:26). The earth and all it entails was created to be a natural and physical emulation of God’s spiritual Kingdom. That is why nature was made with such splendor and glorious detail, such precision and perfection. God has given us everything in the natural to help us understand something about His Kingdom and the spirit realm, which is the realm of eternity and is also where the true existence of each and every one of us lives. As a part of this natural representation of Him and His Kingdom, God implemented sexual intimacy in marriage, between man and woman to teach humanity something about the spirit realm. More specifically as far as sex and marriage is concerned, it is to teach us about our relationship with Him.

Through study and revelation of the scriptures we learn that sexual intimacy in the natural is equivalent to worship in the spirit. We can see this by looking at some scriptures in the third chapter of Jeremiah. (Keep in mind that ‘Israel’ and ‘Judah’ were used as names for the collective chosen nation of (Yahweh/God in the Old Testament). “6…Have you seen what fickle Israel does? Like a wife who commits adultery, Israel has worshiped other gods7…And though her faithless sister Judah saw this, 8 she paid no attention. She saw that I had divorced faithless Israel and sent her away. But now Judah, too, has left me and given herself to prostitution.

Scriptures similar to these, referring to idol worship as adultery or some other type of illicit sexual act, can be found all throughout the books of the prophets. In both the Old and New Testament of the Bible the people of God are commonly referred to as “wife” or “bride” (Isa 62:5, Jer 2:2, 2 Cor 11:2, Eph 5:23).Marriage is clearly a symbolic picture of our relationship with God, and theBible makes a strong and clear comparison between sex and worship. Therefore, there is no doubt that sexual intimacy in the natural is equivalent to worship in the spirit or “spiritual intimacy”.

In certain scriptures, we can even see a strong parallel between Adam’s relationship to Eve and our relationship to God, before sin entered in. In Genesis 2:22-24 it reads, 22Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man. 24That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. (NLT)” Then if we take a look at Ephesians 1:4 it reads, 4Even as [in His love] He chose us [actually picked us out for Himself as His own] in Christ before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy (consecrated and set apart for Him) and blameless in His sight, even above reproach, before Him in love. (AMP)”

While restraining myself from writing an entire book expounding upon the depth of revelation hidden in these two scriptures, I just want to point out a couple of nuggets. The woman — the wife — was taken out of the man. We the bride of Christ, were taken out of Him. The woman was made in the man’s own likeness. We were made in the likeness of God. The woman was made just for the man and set apart just for him.  In the same way, we were made just for The LORD and set apart just for Him. Lastly, the man leaves his mother and father to unite with his wife and become one flesh with her. Likewise Yeshua (Jesus) left His Father to unite with us, His bride, and he became flesh with us!

Wow, I get excited every time I read that to know that God wants to be that intimate with us! And this is the foundation upon which I minister on sex, intimacy and relationships. There are four things about the spirit realm, God’s Kingdom and our relationship with Him that we can learn through marital relations and sexual intimacy. We will explore those four things over the next 4 posts in this series. Check back for part 2 and don’t miss a thang!

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.


When Is The Right Time to Talk To Your Children About Sex?

Two years ago, I took my then nine-year old daughter along with me to a Christian girls rally. The audience consisting mainly of 14 to 18 year olds was all abuzz as the hostess introduced “Dr. Intimacy”. They wanted to know who I was and what I was going to talk to them about. I’m sure if this event had been held at school and the community liaison of Planned Parent Hood was announced the girls would’ve known pretty much what to expect. However, the very notion of talking about sex in any Christian function seems almost sinister to most.

After running down a quick introduction I asked the audience a series of questions such as, “What is intimacy?” Many gladly volunteered answers. But when I asked, “What is sex?” everyone froze. No one wanted to answer my question. An audience that I assume by observance of their behavior consisted of very few virgins, was unwilling to render an answer. I refused to move on until I got an answer and so much to everyone’s surprise, my nine-year old daughter raised her hand. With no other volunteers after two minutes of waiting why wouldn’t I give her a chance to answer? She opened up her mouth and said very plainly without smiling, blinking or stuttering, “It’s when the penis goes into the vagina.”

The entire audience responded with laughter and amazement. Why was this nine-year old girl willing and able to explain what a room full of teenagers was not? She was able to explain because I taught her. I have seven children and I began teaching all of my children about sex when they reached the age of two. It never ceases to amaze me as I travel across the country to speak to people on issues of sexuality and intimacy, how ignorant most parents are to the dire need of candidly discussing sex with their children!

I’ll never forget the frantic phone call of a friend of mine. He had been called to his five-year old’s school because the boy had been accosted by two female students in his kindergarten class, who pulled his pants down and began performing oral sex on him right there in the class! It sounds hard to believe I know, but most children begin sexual exploration around the age of two. Sexual exploration is when they get curious and begin to test out “what it does when I do this”. It is also the typical age at which they want to know whether or not other people “have one too”.  It won’t take a child long to figure out  in the midst of their innocent exploration that it feels good when they rub this or pull on that. Many people have discussed with me children masturbating as early as two. I performed it regularly beginning at age five.

Parents, the right time to talk to your children about sex is NOW! The greatest thing that you can do as a parent to help avert sexual misbehavior, and the ill consequences thereof, in the lives of your children is to be very proactive. Don’t just react to what they do, influence what they do. Our children are bombarded with the deviant sexual influences of society from birth. No matter how wholesome you try to keep the environment in your home, unless you plan on moving to a deserted island, there is nothing that you can do to protect them from this. The most important challenge is helping them overcome their curiosity about sex by having candid discussions and lessons.  You can start by showing them illustrations of naked bodies and allowing them ask as many questions as they want to.   Give them honest but age appropriate answers using the proper names for the anatomy.

Always remember this about parenting and life and general: The first time a person hears something will be the most substantial time and will set the foundation for their beliefs on that topic forever. If the first time your children hear about sex is in a perverted way on the school playground, that is what will shape their beliefs about sex. If it is at home with Mom and the Bible, talking about the beauty of intimacy in marriage and the sacredness of their bodies to be reserved for that time, that is what will shape their beliefs.  It is such a terrible and irreversible mistake when parents neglect to discuss sexuality with their children. What I find is that most parents wait until they think their children may be interested or involved in sex, but once that sleeping giant of sexuality is awakened it is hard to return it to hibernation. Don’t wait until it is too late. Equip them now to successfully stand against the pressures of a society that is encouraging sexual immorality on every hand. Help prevent them from becoming another bad teenage statistic and prepare them for enjoyable intimacy with a spouse in the future.

What are your thoughts on this? If you have children, at what age did you first discuss sex with them? Have you been “waiting for the right time”?

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.

Are You a Christian Who Masturbates?

OK so I had to break the ice on this one with the comedic relief of the image above because let’s face it… talks about masturbation get most Christians “hot under the collar”. It’s on everyone’s mind (… and on most people’s hands too… er… uh… every pun intended there, lol.) You are far from the only one that has questions about this. So go ahead and get an alias account name so you can post an honest answer and let’s start blogging! (Don’t worry about being required to leave your email address when you post a comment because the other bloggers can’t see it. It is only requested to verify that you are a valid blogger and not a spamware program leaving automated messages.)

For those of you who don’t know, the main reason that I created this blog is to educate people about the spirits of sexual perversion and the adverse effects that they have on our lives, as well as how to get delivered from these spirits so that we can live in freedom and experience success. If you want to know why this is my passion check out the “Who is Dr. Intimacy” page, or even better yet order my book “STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons”.

At any rate, in an attempt to ensure that I am not  just rambling on about the things I deem important, I would like to post questions and evaluate reader feedback. This will help me more accurately address your specific interests and needs. I know sexual sin is an embarrassing topic to speak on, but how will you get help if you don’t start seeking it?  If you are worried about your image, like I said, create a new account with a screen name and e-mail address that no one will recognize because it is time to start dealing with our issues! I’m here to help and talking about masturbation is a good place to start. So...how about it:

Are you a Christian who masturbates? Why or why not? Do you have any specific Bible references against or in support of masturbation? Do you have specific experiences to share? Please enlighten us!

Comments have been closed on this post. Please refer to the post “Is Masturbation in the Bible As a Sin?” to make comments. Also check out my YouTube video about this.

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.

When a Spouse Cheats, Is the Other Spouse to Blame?

I received a post today from a lady that said, “I by no means was the wife that I was supposed to be but I still to this day don’t believe that I deserved to be cheated on.” That causes me to pose a question: When a husband or wife cheats, is the other spouse to blame? Are they to blame completely in some cases? Only to some degree in some cases? Or never in any case? I don’t know of any place I can go in scripture off-hand to support an opinion to one extent or the other but I do know this, marriage is a partnership and cheating doesn’t  “just happen”.

Now as far as the word “blame” goes, that is a trick question that I asked because I don’t believe that either spouse is to “blame”. Blame is irrelevant in the case of adultery. When infidelity takes place, angry accusations and blame only veil the underlying causes. The act of adultery is not nearly as relevant as the factors that led to it. Establishing who should carry the blame will not bring healing. Discovering how the door for infidelity was opened in the marriage can give the insight needed to repair the marriage and “adultery proof” it for the future.

This has been a “hot-button” issue, especially for women that  have been on the receiving end of adulterous affairs. But I often see a lot of deflection in the angry comments of scorned women. I had been in more affairs than I care to mention and although I am remorseful I went down that road in the past, I am grateful for the insights I gained. Where cheating is concerned, I find that both cheating husbands and cheating wives have told strikingly similar stories about the circumstances that existed in the  home before the affair occurred. Based on what I understand about the sacrifice marriage requires, my counseling sessions and the failures of my own past: my position is that both spouses are responsible for the infidelity no matter which spouse it is that actually does the deed.

Let me know what you think about this and reference scriptures or experiences that you are familiar with if you can.

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

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STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons

STDs 2013 4I want to school you on STDs – no, not “sexually transmitted diseases”. I’m talking about spiritual STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons! Did you know that demonic spirits can be transferred to you during sex and/or sexual activity? Did you ever notice how people change once they begin to have sex? You probably have taken note of it in a friend or relative in the past, but never equated it to sexual activity. Just think about it, your cousin Quan’teeka starts dating Bone Thug from the block and after a couple of weeks you say to her,“Girl, you’ve changed.” Or maybe even in your own life, you took on a new love and your friends and family kept telling you that you changed, even though you couldn’t see the changes!

You probably relate to what I am saying, but probably have always equated such changes just to the new relationship itself and not the reality of STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons. Every demon has a nature and specific corresponding characteristics. That is why groups of people who have no connection to each other but that are infested with the same type of demonic spirit, behave in very similar ways. We call them “stereotypes” but they are nothing less than “familiar spirits” that shape the character and personality of those that they influence. Hmmm… that’s something to think about, isn’t it?

When two people have sex, those two people become one. The same way that the physical bodies of the man and woman lock together and become one interlocked unit, so do their soul and spirit bodies. Every human being consists of three distinct bodies — spirit, soul and flesh – that function in unity with one another, as one unit. Each of those bodies operate in a different realm and each impacts the interactions of your entire human experience. Sexual activity causes two people to connect and become one in all three realms, thus allowing for the transmission of demonic spirits from one person to the other – the same way that sexual activity allows for the transmission of venereal diseases, such as chlamydia, herpes and HIV, from one person to another.

What I am trying to get you to understand is that those changes that take place in your life after you get into a sexual relationship with someone are not a coincidence! They are a direct result of sexually transmitted demons. Have you ever done or said something that you found very uncharacteristic for yourself and thought, “Where in the world did that come from?”This happens as a result of different demonic spirits that  you pick up, usually through sex. The unfortunate thing about it is that most people are completely oblivious to the reality of spiritual STDs, and even once they do become aware of them; it is often too little, too late.

You may think that you can pick up a sexually transmitted demon and just go to the spiritual free clinic (church), and get a dose of spiritual antibiotics (prayer) and go on about your business, unaffected by what you’ve done. But this is not so. Just as there are some sexually transmitted diseases that there are no cure for, there are some sexually transmitted demons that will stay with you indefinitely. Some venereal diseases cause permanent damage to the body such as impotence, erectile dysfunction, uterine pain, cervical and prostate cancer and worst of all – sterility (not being able to produce offspring)! Sexually transmitted demons can have the same impact on your destiny and purpose in the spirit realm!!!

I really want you to think about this carefully. We often take sex so frivolously, regarding it as just a physical act. But I assure you that sex is much more spiritual than it is physical and even if you can use a condom to prevent the transmission of natural STDs, there is no condom to protect yourself from the transmission of spiritual STDs. Abstinence is the only way – preserving sex for the confines of Holy Matrimony.

If you want to know more about sexually transmitted demons, you need to pick up my book. It is entitled, “STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons”. Find out how to buy it on this page:  STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons, 2013 Edition.

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

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