#1 Rule of “sin-free” dating: TIME, PLACE, & SPACE.

TIME: While dating, even if engaged, avoid spending excessive time together. The dating period is a time to get to know each other and soberly evaluate whether or not there is potential for a long-term future. Becoming intoxicated with one another’s presence will interfere with your judgement. Once engaged, the engagement period is a time to prepare for a successful marriage. If you spend every waking moment together, what is the point of putting off the wedding?

PLACE: When you do spend time together, stay in well-lit and/or busy, public places. If you do want to engage in an activity at a more private location, such as a person’s house, be sure that someone that will hold you accountable to sexual integrity is there too. When your accountability covering leaves or goes to bed, you and/or your date must leave too!

SPACE: Keep a safe respectable distance between you and your date. Sit across from the table, as opposed to on a booth side by side. Avoid foot rubs, massages, and other stimulating physical contact that could lower your defenses. Don’t lay on one another (such as placing your feet on their lap, or your head.) If you want to share a little closeness in a public place, it is OK, but even in public, too much physical contact may lead to the temptation to go off and be alone. Lastly, if you want to share a kiss, only do so at the end of a date, outside of the house or car, and don’t let it linger past a minute. There is no need for this, or use for it.

If you are spending a lot of enjoyable time with a person, and get into a private place, and fail to keep enough space between you and the person – a fall into sexual immorality is INEVITABLE. So if you want to stay pure until marriage, remember these important principles…

~Daily Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © 11/20/2012

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Seriously??? You Think You Can Deliver the Person Who Hasn’t Even Allowed THE POWER OF THE CROSS to Help Them?!!!

A painful reality hit me last night after I spoke to a very dear friend of mine who has been living in wretched disobedience for at least five years now. This place that he is in, is a place that only the Spirit of God can help him get out of. For the scripture says in Hebrews 6:4-6,

“4 It is impossible for those who have once been enlightened, who have tasted the heavenly gift, who have shared in the Holy Spirit, 5 who have tasted the goodness of the word of God and the powers of the coming age 6 and who have fallen away, to be brought back to repentance [by another human being]. To their loss they are crucifying the Son of God all over again and subjecting him to public disgrace. (NIV)” [added for interpretation]

I am ashamed of my pride! How could I think that my love is great enough to bring him out of his sin and disobedience, when the Love of The One Who Died for him has not been enough? WOW!!! Yeshua forgive me for insulting Your Sacrifice!!

Before a person can receive mentorship or guidance from anyone, they first need to be set free through the power of their own press of prayer and fasting. Jesus Himself said, “…This kind can come out by nothing but prayer and fasting. (Mark 9:29b, NKJV)”

In 1 Cor 15:33 it reads, “Do not be misled, bad company corrupts good character.” In Ps 1:1 we are exhorted to remove ourselves from those that dwell comfortably in sin. As long as you continue to try to help people like this, you are only contaminating your own walk. All you can do for a person like this is intercede for them in the Spirit — from a distant and detached place.

Read this carefully…


I set myself FREE this morning. Like and comment if you intend to follow me and loose yourself from those that are married to disobedience!!!


~Daily Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © 11/19/2012

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How Serious Are You About Your Deliverance?

So you have some type of sin issue in your life that you want to break free of, right? Or at least that is what you say (sarcastically raised eyebrow).

Stop saying that you want deliverance without true repentance. Don’t keep hanging out with your co-workers on their “smoke break”, and then wonder why you can’t stop smoking. Don’t keep watching TV shows that glorify homosexuals and their lifestyle, and then complain that you are “struggling” with homosexual thoughts. Don’t keep lying in bed topless with a thong on, talking to Johnny at one o’clock in the morning, and baffle over why you keep falling into sexual sin with him. I’m sorry but I am going to have to say this RAW – GIVE ME A BREAK! You have NOT changed anything about your lifestyle, your friends, your habits, what you watch, what you listen to, how often you read your Bible, your prayer and fasting press, or your church attendance patterns, and yet you say you want deliverance?

“6 And when they confessed their sins, he baptized them in the Jordan River. 7 But when he saw many Pharisees and Sadducees coming to watch him baptize, he denounced them. “You brood of snakes!” he exclaimed. “Who warned you to flee God’s coming wrath? 8 Prove by the way you live that you have repented of your sins and turned to God. (Mat 3:6-8, NIV)”
Many people want someone else to deliver them. They want other people to pray for them, fast for them, study for them… shoot, they basically want someone else to get delivered for them on their behalf. But I have a news flash for you, YOU HAVE TO PARTICIPATE IN YOUR OWN DELIVERANCE!CHANGE YOUR WAYS AND YOU WILL CHANGE YOUR OUTCOME!!!

~Daily Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © 11/14/2012

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