When the Preacher’s Child is Gay: Homosexuality in the Church

What do you do when you’ve poured your life out to preach the Gospel and your child announces that he or she is gay? What do you do when you are a preacher’s kid and you don’t believe the same thing your parents believe? How do we overcome homosexuality in families and churches without condemning each other or compromising our convictions? Dr. Intimacy had to face this very difficult challenge in her own family. Join her and her eldest son Ja’Keim Haniah, as they have a transparent and intimate dialogue about their struggle with these issues.

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The Conception of Dr. Intimacy – The Powerful Testimony of My Conversion

Wow it blew me away recording the powerful testimony of my life and conversion! Let us never forget where He has brought us from!

~Dr. Intimacy~

37 Years of “BUT GOD” Outcomes to Celebrate This Thanksgiving… HalleluYAH!

Over the next 24 hours, I want to dedicate my praise and thanksgiving to the top 37 “BUT GOD” outcomes in my life. I challenge you to make your own “BUT GOD” thanksgiving list according to the years of your life. It may humble and amaze you when you really sit back to meditate on all of the significant challenges and circumstances The Father has delivered you from. It makes the small stuff fade into insignificance and even the big mountains will begin to look like mole hills!!!

  1. My mother almost aborted me… BUT GOD!
  2. My daddy was a pimp that almost stayed around to infect — uh, I mean — “rasie” me… BUT GOD!
  3. The two people who molested and raped me when I was two could have killed me when they were finished with me… BUT GOD!
  4. The car that stopped an inch away from my body almost killed me when I was three… BUT GOD!
  5. The KKK almost caught me when I five, as they chased me down with ropes and knives in hand… BUT GOD!
  6. My sister was almost too afraid to tell Momma that the step daddy that I loved so much raped her, and he could have stayed around to do the same thing to me and my baby sister… BUT GOD!
  7. The fever of almost 109° almost killed me or left me brain dead just like “they” said it would… BUT GOD!
  8. I almost spent my life in a wheel chair from crippling Lupus pain… BUT GOD!
  9. I could have stayed in that mental institution for the rest of my life… BUT GOD!
  10.  After being raped and molested as a child, I could have been promiscuous at a much younger age… BUT GOD!
  11. I almost married my soul to satan in the practice of witchcraft that I was introduced to as a child… BUT GOD!
  12. I could have become a victim of human trafficking or a hardcore drug addict when I left home at 16… BUT GOD!
  13. I could have died, and very much wanted to, when I abruptly stopped taking the medications at 17 that had kept me alive for nine years… BUT GOD!
  14.  Any of the three separate times a gun was held to my held head, the trigger could have been pulled… BUT GOD!
  15.  One of the jealous girlfriends or wives of the men I gave my body to could have killed or maimed me… BUT GOD!
  16. I could have been killed on the streets by the rival drug gang who took out many of my crew… BUT GOD!
  17. I could almost spent 10 to 20 years in prison when busted in a major federal drug sting at 18 years old… BUT GOD!
  18. I almost never gave birth as a teenage mother to the son that got me off the streets… BUT GOD!
  19. I could have been raped and killed by a serial killer in my days of stripping and prostitution… BUT GOD!
  20. I almost went away to become a Vegas strip prostitute with the friend who ended up with AIDS… BUT GOD!
  21. When the domestic abuser that I allowed into my home crushed my soul and broke my bones, he could have killed me… BUT GOD!
  22. I could have stayed in a situation of domestic abuse for 10 years like my mother… BUT GOD!
  23. I almost committed the murder-suicide of me and my toddler son, just like I was planning to do… BUT GOD!
  24. I could have never cried out to Jesus (YAHashua) to save me… BUT GOD!
  25. All of the contaminated vessels of perversion that molested and mishandled me in the church almost scared me away from ministry forever… BUT GOD!
  26. I almost backslid forever and never came back after falling… BUT GOD!
  27. I could’ve been pregnant by him… BUT GOD!
  28. After a life full of sexual sin and promiscuity, I could have and should have contracted HIV and other incurable diseases… BUT GOD!
  29.  I almost married him instead of the man that became the father of my seven children… BUT GOD!
  30. I could have died giving birth to anyone of my children, just like “they” said I could… BUT GOD! “They” also said I would never be able to have children… double BUT GOD!
  31. My suicide attempt was almost successful… BUT GOD!
  32. The witch doctor that paid thousands of dollars on spells to have me killed almost danced on my grave… BUT GOD!
  33. I almost lost my mind from the weight of poverty and becoming homeless with five young children while pregnant… BUT GOD!
  34. Anyone of my children could have been deformed, maimed, sick, in a major accident, diagnosed with and defeated by major illness, etc… BUT GOD!
  35. I could have blamed God and cursed Him when I found out 4 of my 7 seven children had been sexually molested… BUT GOD!
  36. I could have stayed trapped in a marriage where I wasn’t loved or never recovered from the divorce… BUT GOD!
  37. I could have died in my sins, never receiving the grace and work of the cross… BUT GOD… BUT JESUS… BUT YAHASHUA… NOTHING BUT THE BLOOD!

I could go on and on, but I will stop myself because my family wants to feast on Thanksgiving foods, lol. One more for you for the road though – I could be spending thanksgiving alone… BUT GOD! No matter how dysfunctional your family is, remember that you could be destitute and alone. As long as you all still have breath in your body, there is the hope of redemption and reconciliation because Yahweh loves creating “BUT GOD” outcomes that bring Him GLORYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HALLELUYAH!

~Daily Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © 11/22/2012

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The Election has been decided!!!

Today is election day, and while Americans bustle around trying to secure our next elected president, I want to remind us that God’s election has already been decided! He has called us the very elect in Christ. In 2 Pet 1:5-10 is says,

“5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6 and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; 7 and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. 8 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins. 10 Therefore, my brothers and sisters,[ make every effort to confirm your calling and election. For if you do these things, you will never stumble,”

Even after the president is elected into office, the election is not “confirmed” until he is sworn in at the inaugural service. Likewise, our election is not confirmed until we step up to the podium, take a vow to live for Christ and then carry it out.

Don’t forget today and everyday that you have already been counted worthy to be elected – SO LIVE LIKE IT!!!

~Daily Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © November 6, 2012

So You Think You’ve Changed…

…You may have experienced a seeming breakthrough or change of nature lately, but be careful because our basic nature never really changes. Like the thorn in Paul’s side that God would not take away, so are we all. But through the sufficiency of His grace, he positions us in safe places to overcome those things that would try to over come us. And as long as we

accept the help that He sends, and stay in the place of safety that He gives us, we are victorious. But when we refuse His help, or step outside of His safe place then we find ourselves being buffeted by the same old issues that we thought were no longer issues!

Don’t mistake being shielded from the effect of an issue as the same thing as it being taken away. Whatever or whoever God has sent into your life to protect you from falling, cling to it, or you will soon discover that you hadn’t changed after all.

~Daily Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © November 5, 2012

From Friendship to Fornication: Setting the Captives Free!

This is a story from my past…

It was just another night in the life of a broken woman – a night that had ended like many others before it. I was on the bed with my face in my pillow sobbing, soiled with the stains of sin’s residue. The events that led up to this night had begun six months prior when the assistant pastor of my church asked me for my phone number. He said that he was going to give it to his wife because he saw that I really needed some help. I had been out of church for quite some time. The filth of my spirit was way beyond obvious. I was annoyed with his request. I didn’t want help. I was bitter and not interested in being better. His persistence won out though and I finally gave him the number.

Unfortunately, his wife never saw that number. That very same day he called me six times. And he called me every day thereafter – at my house, on my cell phone, at my job – he wouldn’t stop calling me. I really felt that he was a dork at first. I used to do mean things like leave him on hold for 10 minutes just for the fun of it. He would actually wait too. He was really strung out on me and I was disgusted by it, but I found it amusing. I was too deep in sin to realize how evil it was for me to entertain this man’s pursuits of me. What he was up to was apparent to me. He wasn’t the first “man of the cloth” to run after me. These things never ended well, but I was cocky. I thought I could handle it this time.

In the mean time God began to soften and heal my calloused heart. He was restoring me from my backslidden state. Before long I found myself completely detached from the friends and life of sin that had become familiar to me. Suddenly, this dorky pastor was my only friend. Things took an unexpected turn. I began to look forward to his phone calls. I was feeling uncomfortable with the relationship because I was really growing spiritually and I did not want to mess up again. I always did just fine as a Christian until it came to the dreaded ‘S’ word. Yeah, that three-letter expletive ‘sex’.

I decided that I did not want to speak to him anymore, but he insisted that we were just friends. He said to me, “Preachers need friends too.” Soon, phone calls turned into visits and visits turned into a full-fledged obsession. I knew this couldn’t end well. I asked The Lord to intervene. I didn’t know what else to do. I begged “my friend” to please stay away from me before “something bad happened”. But he didn’t listen. He would come to my home and literally cry tears when I refused to let him in. Did I mention that he was married? To a beautiful and anointed sister at the church who happened to be pregnant at the time? It was really a bad situation.

After much begging and pleading with God that He would make this man stop coming to my house, after tearfully praying that He would not let me fall into sexual sin again – it seemed that my prayers had fallen on deaf ears. After six months of a purely “innocent friendship” there I was on my bed crying. The ‘S’ word had happened. He had to go home to his wife, and I was left to deal with the shame and consequent self-hatred. We continued to be together for a time longer and I thought that I would never be restored after this incident. I was just about to walk away from the faith again when my Heavenly Father stopped me.

God delivered me out of that relationship and set me on my destined course to set satan’s captives free. From that time on the Lord began to teach me all about sexual perversion and the spirits that oppress people influencing them commit such acts. It was a painful situation but it was purposeful. I am thankful and that is why I am writing this blog. I want to help people who are struggling with sexual sin. I want to teach you what I have learned about true deliverance and authentic intimacy. Together we will take back what the enemy has stolen and learn how to Love Free!

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.

Who Is Dr. Intimacy?

It always amuses me when I observe the surprising look on people’s faces when they hear me introduced as “Dr. Intimacy”. This is especially true when it comes to males who find me attractive. I can see the alarms go off in the thoughts of those I encounter — alarms of judgment, fear, sexual lust and much more. Let me make it clear; I do discuss sex quite a bit on my blog, in my books and in life in general. However, the core of my heart is illuminated with the LOVE Nature of The Creator and the True Intimacy that the authentic Love Nature of God produces in people.

Sex is a natural desire in every human being because it is the ultimate physical expression of what we think love is. However, always remember that having sex can never be used to create intimacy. Sex is either an expression of intimacy that already exists, or an exposure of intimacy that is not present. “Intimacy” is not something that you do, it is rather something that you are; intimacy not an activity; it is a nature. Allowing the Love Nature of God to illuminate your being will cause you to experience relationships with people and sex with your significant other like never before.

Understanding this, is a beginning to understanding who “Dr. Intimacy” really is. I’m not here to teach you the physical mechanics of sex; I am here to teach you how to be FREE in intimacy – Intimacy with God, yourself, your lover, your family, your friends and this world that we live in. On this blog we will be learning the nature, exploring the expression and dispelling the fears of authentic love – guiding us through the experience of  “Becoming Intimacy”.

The Naked Truth About Sex and all issues related to intimacy and relationships will be discussed openly and frequently because sex is the physical equivalent of spiritual intimacy. Therefore, through exploring sexual relations we will begin to unravel the mysteries of intimacy. We will explore scripture as well. The Bible is The Creator’s Love Letter to His Creation. He is LOVE. Through studying the Words that He has shared with us, we will understand more about how to conceive His Love Nature in our own lives and give birth to true intimacy.  The Bible is a road map for our journey and I will be your tour guide, unleashing the modern-day relevance of scripture as it relates to true intimacy.

You might be wondering how I became so involved in this topic.  I will be using this blog to post personal stories, testimonials, and bits of my autobiography — whatever I feel led to share — from time to time.  You might read some things that shock you. Believe me, I’m not trying to shock you or impress you. As the Bible clearly states, we overcome satan by the Blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony! (Rev 12:11). This is my only agenda in sharing my testimony. I want you to know that I am speaking from experience and not looking down on anyone from a platform of judgement and disgust. As I share my life with you, it will become clear why I became so passionate about this topic. To get to know me better visit the “Who Is Dr. Intimacy?” category. Feel free to leave your comments.

In the Power of Love,

 Dr. Intimacy

 Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

 www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.

Why I Believe In Network Marketing

MLM pays! I took this picture at my company conference over the weekend. This is my mentor’s Rolls Royce, Mr. Holton Buggs. He is teaching me the principles of success so I can earn what I need to be free. I don’t want a Rolls Royce but I do want to be able to buy a needy family a car. And  hey, if I can afford a Rolls how many reliable vehicles could I buy for the needy? Getting into this company changed my life forever. It gave me the time freedom to be here available to minister to your needs. Don’t let someone else’s ignorant negativity talk you out of the opportunity of a lifetime. Multi-level marketing is not a scam. Network Marketing has created more millionaires than any other industry in history. Here are 10 facts about MLMs that you should know before you close the door to a money and time freedom opportunity that could literally save your life just as it did mine!

1. You are qualified to start today!  Unlike a traditional job no one will disqualify you due to lack of education or tell you to come back after you get your certification when you want to get started! You don’t need any special degree or qualifications to start your own MLM business. Unlike most traditional jobs, you can get started without any special prior experience. You don’t need any sells training or experience or any networking experiencing to start your own MLM business.

2. Your time belongs to you! Unlike a traditional job you can set your own hours. Don’t think that you don’t have time to start a successful MLM business. Although you will have to put in a lot of hours if you want to become wealthy through network marketing, you can start earning money in most MLM companies putting in as little time as 2 hours per week and work in more hours as you choose.

3. You don’t have to be wealthy or take out a loan to get started! Unlike a traditional job, career or business where you have to invest thousands or even tens of thousands of dollars in education and start-up capital to be successful, most MLMs have inexpensive start-up options for those that are struggling financially. You can get started in my company for around $50 bucks!

4. Retire in just a few years instead of a few decades! On a traditional job you have to work 30 to 40 years before you can retire; to receive only 40% of what you were earning before retirement – that is if the company doesn’t fire you before you have a chance to retire with full benefits! MLMs are not get rich quick schemes. Most of them have to be worked diligently for 2 to 5 years in order to earn retirement income. However let’s put that into perspective: 40 to 60 hours per week, for 40 years, to retire on 40% of your income, which will no longer be paid once you and your spouse both pass away — or 15 to 20 hours per week; for 2 to 5 years; to retire with 5 figure monthly residual income that you can leave as an inheritance to your children and grand children when you die? Hmmm… really, what makes more sense?

5. A pyramid is the strongest structure in existence; make it work in your favor! A traditional corporation is the most diabolical pyramid structure in existence. You have one founder or CEO who benefits the most, a handful of top-level executives under him, a small army of under-paid middle management employees under the execs, and then a sea of miserable, over-worked employees at the bottom that are selling the hours of their lives away to make the CEO at the top rich! You see the people on the bottom of a corporate pyramid will never move to the top where the CEO is; they are stuck there as long as they want to keep that JOB (Just Over Broke). MLMs have gotten a bad rap for being “pyramids”, but a networking pyramid is unequivocally better than any corporate pyramid because you are never “stuck” at the bottom. In an MLM, the people who work the system most effectively are the ones that move to the top. You can join 10 years into a company’s existence and in a year’s time be earning more than a top income earner that was there from day one. Don’t be stuck at the bottom of a corporate pyramid, move to the top of an MLM pyramid!

6. You handle your own money and invest or save it the way you want to! There are many traditional corporations that have come under fire lately for mishandling funds in such a way that hurt their employees. Mishandling of 401k and retirement fund money has left people flat broke after decades of saving for financial security in their old age. The truth is that you never know what is happening to your money when you put it in the hands of a corporate stranger whose agenda is never to make you financially secure, but is always to make his or her position with the CEO of the company secure by making that person even wealthier. So it seems like corporate jobs are much riskier “schemes” than MLMs. What makes an MLM illegal is when there is no legitimate product or service being offered by the company and the distributors are paid only to recruit other distributors. However the majority of MLMs are legitimate companies that offer in-demand products and services that the public wants or needs. Making the product or service available to the public through a networking platform is simply a method of advertising that enables the people who enjoy the use of said products or services to earn income through sharing them. You make the money and you keep the money; investing, saving and/or spending it when and how you choose.

7. More available tax write-offs means keeping more of your hard-earned money! The average traditional job offers very few tax benefits. However, by starting your own MLM business you get to take advantage of more than 400 tax write-offs available to small business owners. You can actually write off the cost of fuel, airline tickets and meals when you travel for business. Part of your mortgage and utilities can be written off and so much more. This means that you get to keep more of your money in your pocket!

8. Travel freely and still make money! Many people would love a job that allows them to travel, but most traditional jobs keep you stuck in a stationary place for many years. Inactivity causes health problems such as obesity, poor circulation, carpel tunnel syndrome and so many others. But with an MLM business you can travel anywhere you want to and build your MLM business. You can even introduce your MLM business to your hometown where possibly no one has ever heard of it and enjoy major profits from the benefit of “first movers advantage”. Stay active, live healthy, enjoy traveling and get paid to do it – then write it off!

9. Unlimited income potential to get paid what you are actually worth! On a traditional job there is a cap on your income potential. No matter how hard you work your set wage or salary won’t allow you to make over a certain amount of money. You can work the hardest on your job and get paid the least.  You can come early and stay late and see no difference in your pay check. The average annual income in America is $38,000 per year. The average income for home-based business owners is $60,000 per year. You see in most MLMs there is unlimited income potential. If you only want to work hard enough to supplement your income with $10,000 a year you can do that or you can work extra hard for a few years and make 20 million dollars a year. There is no limit to the money you can earn in MLM and you get to decide how much effort you want to put into reaching your financial goal.

10. World Class training and personal development to help you realize your full potential in all areas of life! On a traditional job your personal development would lead to you believing in your own ability so much so that you finally wake up and realize that you are not going to keep selling your time to make some corporate fat cat rich, while you only get paid 10% of your actual worth and either end up dead or dead broke by the time you are 65! Too much personal development will lead to you  calling in well, “Well… I’m not coming in anymore!” LOL. Therefore a corporation is not going to invest time and money into your personal development or even encourage it! However, in a network marketing company your personal development will lead to you successfully setting and achieving  higher financial goals for yourself. The more money you earn in an MLM, the more the company earns as well. Your personal success in not a threat to the founder of an MLM company the way it is in a traditional corporation, which is why you can look forward to free or inexpensive world-class training offered by your MLM company. After spending a couple of years with your chosen company, you will understand the principles of success and be developed enough to achieve whatever you set your mind to for the rest of your life. The personal development you achieve, will always out weigh the value of the money you earn in a good MLM company.

With these truths established, why has networking gotten such a bad rap? Because people are lazy and don’t stick with the company’s system long enough to see a return on their investment. Then they spread the word that “it didn’t work”. The truth is “they didn’t work”! But unlike a traditional job where getting fired means the end of your relationship with that company, no one can fire you from your MLM business except you and therefore no one can stop you from re-hiring yourself! If you have tried before and failed, it is only because you expected “overnight success”. You have worked on your job for years and you are not rich, yet you quit an MLM business after the first month because you are not rich? Not a very fair demand on MLM when you look at it that way is it? No worries though; this is the most forgiving industry in business. You can start again today with your old company or with a new one and still succeed as if you never left. Or if you have never tried before, now you can start with realistic expectations.

Now of course not all companies are created equally and there are those that are better than others. I have been with my company, OrGano Gold, for 2 years now. It is the fastest growing company in momentum in the world right now. By comparison our distributors make more money and have more active team members than any other MLM company around. Please check it out. You never know if this may be just what you have been praying for. If you are interested, you and I will be able to work together personally and you will not only be helping your own finances but will also be sowing into this ministry by helping me financially and keeping me free to serve the public with the revelations God has given me.

Check out my company at this web link www.energizegourmetcoffee.com or see the ‘Free Coffee and Easy Cash‘ page on this blog. If you don’t think the business opportunity is for you, please consider buying some product from my website. It is a great product and will make a great Christmas gift too. I can show you how to get it at wholesale as well if you are interested. If you have been blessed by what I do on this blog then show your support!

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.

Understanding Intimacy Part 1: Why Did God Create Sexual Intimacy?

Anything you don’t understand, you are bound to abuse. That is why scripture admonishes us in Proverbs 4:7 to get understanding in all that we get; for wisdom truly is the principle thing. Before you can can really grasp anything else I write about on this blog, you are going to have to get a good grasp on the core foundational revelation upon which this whole ministry was built.  I will be sharing this revelations with you in the “Understanding Intimacy Series” which will be contained in a number of posts. If you plan on being a regular follower of this blog and really want a deeper understanding of wholesome intimacy and deliverance from sexual perversion, study this series carefully. All of the information in this series is taken directly from my book, “The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Handbook: Updated 2012 Edition which can be ordered at www.drintimacy.com” To find all post in this series visit The Understanding Intimacy Series – All Post.

I believe that the three greatest weaknesses of humanity in the flesh are: 1) The need to eat; 2) The need to sleep; and 3) The urge to have sex. I note these three needs to emphasize how the spirits of sexual perversion work. They take advantage of one of the greatest weaknesses of the flesh – our God-given desire to have sex.

God told man and woman in the book of Genesis to, “…Be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth…(Gen 1:28)” There is of course spiritual significance to what God said to them on that day, but there is also natural, practical significance. In laymen’s terms God was basically saying, “I command you to have sex and lots of it!” This may be a little hard to swallow because of our perception of sex. We generally think of sex as something forbidden, naughty or perverse. Let us consider it practically though.

In order  for them to multiply (in its most literal sense meaning to have children) they would have to engage in intercourse to afford conception an opportunity. Then in order to replenish the earth, which is a tall order to fill, they would have to engage in intercourse often so that they might improve the likelihood of frequent conception. Another point to consider is the fact that when God gave this command people did not wear clothing. All of us who are, or once were, sexually active would probably agree that the absence of clothing often times stirs sexual desire. This is especially true if you are in a relationship with someone who you are highly attracted to and in love with. There is no reason to believe there were any exceptions to this basic instinct at the dawn of creation. Yahweh is a very deliberate God and all of this was by no means a coincidence! Thus, the truth of the matter is that God created us to frequently engage in and enjoy sexual intimacy.

What we have to realize is that because man was created in the image and likeness of the Lord God Almighty (Gen 1:26), humanity was created in Holy Perfection. Everything about man (and woman) was good and pure at the time of creation, including the act of sex. But once sin entered into the earth, it perverted everything God had created on the earth. How did sin enter into all of creation on earth considering that humanity alone committed sin? This is because all of creation on earth was under man’s dominion.

Once humanity became corrupt, all that we had dominion over became corrupt along with us. Sin had entered into man and corrupted us in our entirety. The corruption of sin caused us to be separated from Elohim the Creator and without that connection to God, all of creation and everything about it became perverse and evil. That is one of the reasons why David says in the book of Psalms, “I was shapen in iniquity, and in sin did my mother conceive me. (Ps 51:5, KJV)” The act of sex is just another part of what was perverted by sin at the fall of humanity. So now we understand that God actually ordained sexual intimacy and that sex is not bad, but we still need to understand why Yahweh implemented sexual intimacy as a part of the normal routine of humanity.

First off, it is important to understand that everything that exists in the natural world exists first in the spiritual world. The Bible teaches us that God is a Spirit and indicates that His Kingdom is a spiritual one (John 4:24; 14:17; Mat 12:28, 16:26). The earth and all it entails was created to be a natural and physical emulation of God’s spiritual Kingdom. That is why nature was made with such splendor and glorious detail, such precision and perfection. God has given us everything in the natural to help us understand something about His Kingdom and the spirit realm, which is the realm of eternity and is also where the true existence of each and every one of us lives. As a part of this natural representation of Him and His Kingdom, God implemented sexual intimacy in marriage, between man and woman to teach humanity something about the spirit realm. More specifically as far as sex and marriage is concerned, it is to teach us about our relationship with Him.

Through study and revelation of the scriptures we learn that sexual intimacy in the natural is equivalent to worship in the spirit. We can see this by looking at some scriptures in the third chapter of Jeremiah. (Keep in mind that ‘Israel’ and ‘Judah’ were used as names for the collective chosen nation of (Yahweh/God in the Old Testament). “6…Have you seen what fickle Israel does? Like a wife who commits adultery, Israel has worshiped other gods7…And though her faithless sister Judah saw this, 8 she paid no attention. She saw that I had divorced faithless Israel and sent her away. But now Judah, too, has left me and given herself to prostitution.

Scriptures similar to these, referring to idol worship as adultery or some other type of illicit sexual act, can be found all throughout the books of the prophets. In both the Old and New Testament of the Bible the people of God are commonly referred to as “wife” or “bride” (Isa 62:5, Jer 2:2, 2 Cor 11:2, Eph 5:23).Marriage is clearly a symbolic picture of our relationship with God, and theBible makes a strong and clear comparison between sex and worship. Therefore, there is no doubt that sexual intimacy in the natural is equivalent to worship in the spirit or “spiritual intimacy”.

In certain scriptures, we can even see a strong parallel between Adam’s relationship to Eve and our relationship to God, before sin entered in. In Genesis 2:22-24 it reads, 22Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man. 24That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. (NLT)” Then if we take a look at Ephesians 1:4 it reads, 4Even as [in His love] He chose us [actually picked us out for Himself as His own] in Christ before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy (consecrated and set apart for Him) and blameless in His sight, even above reproach, before Him in love. (AMP)”

While restraining myself from writing an entire book expounding upon the depth of revelation hidden in these two scriptures, I just want to point out a couple of nuggets. The woman — the wife — was taken out of the man. We the bride of Christ, were taken out of Him. The woman was made in the man’s own likeness. We were made in the likeness of God. The woman was made just for the man and set apart just for him.  In the same way, we were made just for The LORD and set apart just for Him. Lastly, the man leaves his mother and father to unite with his wife and become one flesh with her. Likewise Yeshua (Jesus) left His Father to unite with us, His bride, and he became flesh with us!

Wow, I get excited every time I read that to know that God wants to be that intimate with us! And this is the foundation upon which I minister on sex, intimacy and relationships. There are four things about the spirit realm, God’s Kingdom and our relationship with Him that we can learn through marital relations and sexual intimacy. We will explore those four things over the next 4 posts in this series. Check back for part 2 and don’t miss a thang!

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.


When a Spouse Cheats, Is the Other Spouse to Blame?

I received a post today from a lady that said, “I by no means was the wife that I was supposed to be but I still to this day don’t believe that I deserved to be cheated on.” That causes me to pose a question: When a husband or wife cheats, is the other spouse to blame? Are they to blame completely in some cases? Only to some degree in some cases? Or never in any case? I don’t know of any place I can go in scripture off-hand to support an opinion to one extent or the other but I do know this, marriage is a partnership and cheating doesn’t  “just happen”.

Now as far as the word “blame” goes, that is a trick question that I asked because I don’t believe that either spouse is to “blame”. Blame is irrelevant in the case of adultery. When infidelity takes place, angry accusations and blame only veil the underlying causes. The act of adultery is not nearly as relevant as the factors that led to it. Establishing who should carry the blame will not bring healing. Discovering how the door for infidelity was opened in the marriage can give the insight needed to repair the marriage and “adultery proof” it for the future.

This has been a “hot-button” issue, especially for women that  have been on the receiving end of adulterous affairs. But I often see a lot of deflection in the angry comments of scorned women. I had been in more affairs than I care to mention and although I am remorseful I went down that road in the past, I am grateful for the insights I gained. Where cheating is concerned, I find that both cheating husbands and cheating wives have told strikingly similar stories about the circumstances that existed in the  home before the affair occurred. Based on what I understand about the sacrifice marriage requires, my counseling sessions and the failures of my own past: my position is that both spouses are responsible for the infidelity no matter which spouse it is that actually does the deed.

Let me know what you think about this and reference scriptures or experiences that you are familiar with if you can.

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

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STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons

STDs 2013 4I want to school you on STDs – no, not “sexually transmitted diseases”. I’m talking about spiritual STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons! Did you know that demonic spirits can be transferred to you during sex and/or sexual activity? Did you ever notice how people change once they begin to have sex? You probably have taken note of it in a friend or relative in the past, but never equated it to sexual activity. Just think about it, your cousin Quan’teeka starts dating Bone Thug from the block and after a couple of weeks you say to her,“Girl, you’ve changed.” Or maybe even in your own life, you took on a new love and your friends and family kept telling you that you changed, even though you couldn’t see the changes!

You probably relate to what I am saying, but probably have always equated such changes just to the new relationship itself and not the reality of STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons. Every demon has a nature and specific corresponding characteristics. That is why groups of people who have no connection to each other but that are infested with the same type of demonic spirit, behave in very similar ways. We call them “stereotypes” but they are nothing less than “familiar spirits” that shape the character and personality of those that they influence. Hmmm… that’s something to think about, isn’t it?

When two people have sex, those two people become one. The same way that the physical bodies of the man and woman lock together and become one interlocked unit, so do their soul and spirit bodies. Every human being consists of three distinct bodies — spirit, soul and flesh – that function in unity with one another, as one unit. Each of those bodies operate in a different realm and each impacts the interactions of your entire human experience. Sexual activity causes two people to connect and become one in all three realms, thus allowing for the transmission of demonic spirits from one person to the other – the same way that sexual activity allows for the transmission of venereal diseases, such as chlamydia, herpes and HIV, from one person to another.

What I am trying to get you to understand is that those changes that take place in your life after you get into a sexual relationship with someone are not a coincidence! They are a direct result of sexually transmitted demons. Have you ever done or said something that you found very uncharacteristic for yourself and thought, “Where in the world did that come from?”This happens as a result of different demonic spirits that  you pick up, usually through sex. The unfortunate thing about it is that most people are completely oblivious to the reality of spiritual STDs, and even once they do become aware of them; it is often too little, too late.

You may think that you can pick up a sexually transmitted demon and just go to the spiritual free clinic (church), and get a dose of spiritual antibiotics (prayer) and go on about your business, unaffected by what you’ve done. But this is not so. Just as there are some sexually transmitted diseases that there are no cure for, there are some sexually transmitted demons that will stay with you indefinitely. Some venereal diseases cause permanent damage to the body such as impotence, erectile dysfunction, uterine pain, cervical and prostate cancer and worst of all – sterility (not being able to produce offspring)! Sexually transmitted demons can have the same impact on your destiny and purpose in the spirit realm!!!

I really want you to think about this carefully. We often take sex so frivolously, regarding it as just a physical act. But I assure you that sex is much more spiritual than it is physical and even if you can use a condom to prevent the transmission of natural STDs, there is no condom to protect yourself from the transmission of spiritual STDs. Abstinence is the only way – preserving sex for the confines of Holy Matrimony.

If you want to know more about sexually transmitted demons, you need to pick up my book. It is entitled, “STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons”. Find out how to buy it on this page:  STDs: Sexually Transmitted Demons, 2013 Edition.

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.