When the Preacher’s Child is Gay: Homosexuality in the Church

What do you do when you’ve poured your life out to preach the Gospel and your child announces that he or she is gay? What do you do when you are a preacher’s kid and you don’t believe the same thing your parents believe? How do we overcome homosexuality in families and churches without condemning each other or compromising our convictions? Dr. Intimacy had to face this very difficult challenge in her own family. Join her and her eldest son Ja’Keim Haniah, as they have a transparent and intimate dialogue about their struggle with these issues.

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Ask Dr. Intimacy – Help for Married Men

How do you get over desire for a former partner when you are happily married? Is oral sex spoken of in the Bible? How can you show your wife in scripture that she should honor you and not nag you? All of these questions are addressed in this video. I recorded this video especially with Christian men in mind. I hope it blesses you. Enjoy!

You Can’t Cast Out LOVE: Part 2 – Love Will Last Forever…

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This is a continuation of the article “You Can’t Cast Out Love – Part 1”. Click on link to read Part 1.

…The bible reads in John 8:32, “And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” We as church leaders need to be set free by the truth before we can set anyone else free with it. The truth that we need to know in regards to sinful relationships is that these couples do fall in LOVE, and their LOVE covers over the sin of their fornication. The conviction may be in their hearts, but it gives way to the LOVE that consumes them. Pease let no one misunderstand me! I clearly and emphatically declare that pre-wedding-ceremony-sex is sinful; IT IS FORNICATION. Homosexuality is a sin; adultery is a sin; teenage sexual love affairs are a sin. The fornication that is birthed out of these relationships is not a product of LOVE; it is a product of lust. Yet simultaneously, I am also clearly and emphatically acknowledging that there is still genuine LOVE in these relationships that is expressed through sexuality.

According to James 1:13-14, 13Let no one say when he is tempted, I am tempted from GOD; for GOD is incapable of being tempted by [what is] evil and He Himself tempts no one. 14But every person is tempted when he is drawn away, enticed and baited by his own evil desire (lust, passions).” Here it is made clear to us that the LOVE of Yahweh living inside of us does not tempt us to sin. Every sin, whether it be lying, stealing, cheating, cussing, hating, or fornicating is birthed out of our own lust. However, there are different types of lust – greed (lust for more), gluttony (lust for food), jealousy (lust for attention), lasciviousness (physical lust for sex), hatred (lust for death and murder), gossip (lust for destruction), loneliness (lust for companionship), stealing (lust for provision or material possessions), etc, etc, etc… This list, of course, could go on and on. My point is simply this: ‘lust’ and ‘sin’ are two synonymous and completely interchangeable words. The definition of lust is NOT ‘sexual sin’. The definition of lust is ‘the desire for unrighteousness; the willingness to break The Law’.  The reason that I am defining what lust is and what it is NOT is because it is important to understand that NOT EVERY SEXUAL SIN IS BIRTHED OUT OF SEXUAL LUST (lasciviousness).

There are times when couples, through mishandling LOVE, express sexually what they share with one another. This type of sexual sin is no more the product of lasciviousness than a person stealing food to feed their children is the product of greed. It is critical to know and discern the difference because the biblical prescription that treats one sin-sickness, will not necessarily work on another. We have to accurately diagnose the sin issue and prescribe the correct spiritual applications and revelations for deliverance. Misdiagnosing a loving couple as victims of lasciviousness will ultimately leave them “stuck” in the situation that they are in. Depression (lust for happiness), ignorance (lust for freedom from accountability), or loneliness (lust for companionship) is more likely an accurate diagnosis than lasciviousness.

So how do we as leaders help people in these situations? How do we counsel and advise them? How do we comfort the person that is experiencing the agony that I described at the beginning of this article? As a person facing this challenge, when the relationship ends or NEEDS to end, how can you stop the bleeding? WE MUST FIRST UNDERSTAND THAT WE CANNOT “CAST OUT LOVE”. You can cast out a spirit of depression, suicide, loneliness, fornication – you can break the stronghold of lust, and wash away the stains of sin. And yet, after all of the praying, rebuking, repenting, binding, pleading, reciting, communing and religious ceremonies are said and done; when every evil spirit is gone and every sin forgiven; you will still have a person that is experiencing the loss of a LOVED one.

What this person goes through is exactly what any person goes through when a loved one dies. In every literal and symbolic sense, a person going through a break-up experiences the exact same pain associated with the death of a loved one. You cannot cast out the LOVE that grew between these two people, and you cannot pray away the sadness of the loss. What a person in this type of situation needs most of all is emotional and spiritual healing. They are hurting, broken, bloody and wounded, and there is no quick fix. Prayers of repentance and scriptures about lust and sexual sin WILL NOT help the one whose heart is broken.  While prayer and repentance is a necessary part of the process, walking the person through the grieving process is just as vital. There are five stages of grieving that are commonly taught:

  1. Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”
  2. Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”
  3. Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return I will ____.”
  4. Oppression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”
  5. Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what has happened.”

 It is important to remember that although this feels exactly like the death of a loved one to the person going through it, it is not an actual death in most cases. How many people would bring back their loved ones from the grave if possible? Most people would! And herein lies the one, major difference between an actual death and the death of a relationship: in the case of a painful break-up, IT IS POSSIBLE to bring the loved one back from the grave. If both parties are willing and able to reconcile, the temptation to do so will be very strong – as strong as a mother’s desire to bring her child back from the dead! Therefore, without implementation and understanding of the grieving process, most people will never make it through step 3 before they go “grave-digging”. Step 4 is usually the crushing weight that will cause them to pick up the phone to set up a meeting to “kiss and make up” – falling back into the pit of fornication. Without support in the grieving process, this will happen over and over again becoming a vicious, sometimes life-long cycle, leading to the death of purpose and destiny in the lives of the participants –  often too leaving the involved leaders feeling helpless and ineffective.

I wrote this article because it is time for us church leaders to stop writing off every sinful relationship as a product of sexual lust and understand and acknowledge that in the midst of sin, LOVE can still live. If LOVE could not live in the midst of sin, then the Holy Spirit could not dwell in any of us! If LOVE could not live in the midst of sin, Yeshua (Jesus) would have died at birth on this sinful earth! We cannot help those suffering the agony of feeling trapped in fornication or those that have just gone through a painful separation, if we don’t understand the hurt they are feeling and why they are feeling it. Grief counseling, healing scriptures, comforting fellowship, peaceful music, positive activities and as much natural support as possible is what it is going to take – in addition to the binding, rebuking, and repenting that goes forth – in order for the person to be made whole again.

LOVE is just who GOD is, and where there is any measure of LOVE, Yahweh surely is somewhere near. In a world that is full of hatred and evil, the privilege of experiencing LOVE, no matter how it comes, is a blessing. Often times the love discovered in illicit relationships is the pathway to understanding LOVE on a greater level and learning to walk in a greater measure of LOVE.  Truly genuine LOVE will always create a pathway to the heart of The Father, which is why the scriptures say, “therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee. (Jer 31:3, KJV)”.  When it is all said and done, every sin will be forgiven and thrown into the sea of forgetfulness. When a sinful union occurs, after the couple has repented, the sin element is remembered no more. However the LOVE produced will remain forever: “Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and LOVE—and the greatest of these is LOVE. (1 Cor 13:13, NLT)”.

I say all of this to help us change our FOCUS. It is not that our approach as leaders and healers has been necessarily wrong, but it has been incomplete and disorganized. When a sick person is bleeding profusely, regardless of what else is wrong with that person, the FIRST procedure is always to address the wound that is causing the bleeding. If the bleeding is not stopped, the person will quickly bleed to death, making all other “procedures” obsolete. After all, there is no point to treating a corpse. So instead of FOCUSING on the lust of a relationship, which is a negative focus, let us focus instead on the LOVE it produced. That positive focus will enable the suffering individuals to use the power of that LOVE to begin the healing process. Remember that it is impossible for LOVE to die, as LOVE is a product of the The Nature of GOD, and GOD forever lives. Although LOVE never dies, it can be transferred or redirected. The LOVE that is shared between the couple can be channeled into loving Their Savior, themselves and their neighbors. As long as that LOVE is flowing through them, the power of that LOVE will heal them. Every wound that had been formerly infected with lust will eventually heal. Ultimately, when infected wounds heal, by default the infection of lust is purged out of their systems.

I pray that this will help us adopt new methods of counseling the broken hearted. Too many couples are dying unnecessarily on the battlefield of love because the doctors in the infirmary are treating the wrong disease. It is said that time heals all wounds, but that is not true. Time does not heal wounds, but all wounds will heal in time, if properly treated. Those wounds that never heal will eventually infect and kill us…

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In the Power of  HIS Love,

Dr. Intimacy

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You Can’t Cast Out Love: Part 1 – Fornication and Forbidden Love

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This article has been in my belly growing and developing for quite some time now. It feels long overdue, but finally I am in labor to give birth to a revelation that I believe may save some lives and some destinies… and maybe some potentially good relationships that would have otherwise been cast into the fire. So here it goes and I do hope I get some insightful feedback on this one…

“Another day lying on the bed in emotional agony; pain stabbing me in the chest as if a finely sharpened pitch fork is being plunged into my heart over and over again. I feel hollow inside, as if a vortex of nothingness has sucked my spirit into an abyss of blackness. There is no light anywhere around me, there is no joy, there is no comfort, there is no peace, there is no hope… There is nothing except endless, painful, agonizing torture every day.

They told me that it is a spirit of depression, so they prayed to break its hold over me – but it didn’t work. They told me that it was a soul tie, so they prayed to cut it – but it didn’t work. They told me to recite Psalm 23, three times a day for 30 days – but it didn’t work. They told me that it was a spirit of lust trying to draw me into sin and that I must fight against it – repent, bind it, and renounce it, and I shall be free – but that didn’t work either. They all had their explanations, but to no avail. Not one of their methods, prescriptions, remedies, prayers, or scriptures brought relief to the insane ache that constantly resonated throughout my being…”

Have you ever experienced this kind of pain? I know that I certainly have. It is the pain and agony that many experience as a relationship ends. It is the type of pain that is indescribable. It is the type of feeling that only those who have felt it can relate to. I can recall one particularly sudden break-up that left me in this type of pain. The first night after the break-up, I was lying on my bed in the dark, barely able to breathe. Sharp pains pierced my heart with every beat. I was fading in and out of consciousness, as dizziness swirled around in my head. I was sweating and feverish. I could not stand up because my legs would not work. I could not eat, as every part of my body rejected the notion of taking in life-sustaining food, when death lived inside of me. There was the constant taste of metal and blood in my mouth, and bitterness in my stomach.

I was dying – I was literally dying, and it was the first time that I knew someone could really die of a broken heart. I longed for death at that moment. I wanted to die and I could not ever see myself whole again at that time. Thinking of my family, I knew that I had to somehow hold on. In order to make it through the night, I asked a friend to come and stay with me. I knew at the very least, I wouldn’t die there in my home alone. It was a rough night for her though. Every 30 minutes or so, I let out a piercing scream into the atmosphere, without explanation. She didn’t know what was wrong with me, and I didn’t know how to explain it. She asked me if I needed to go to the hospital. But, what would have been the point of that – Can a broken heart be fixed in the ER?

They of church and religion have for too long, erroneously attempted to rectify this type of pain through ineffective methods that often times lead to great frustration for the one suffering. Me being a preacher, I have been guilty of this error in times past. It was not until I had to walk through it that I understood the error in how I had mishandled people who had come to me in this type of pain. I repeated to those seeking my help all of the things that had been said to me, “You need to pray; you need to fast; you don’t need him anyway; God has better things in store for you…” These were all truthful sayings, but they acted as band aids on bullet wounds. The so-called doctors of the faith had misdiagnosed my affliction and prescribed the wrong medicine, based on their wrong diagnosis.

What I have now learned through experience and revelation of the scriptures is that relationships forged in sin, are not necessarily absent of LOVE. Before my fall, I gave way to the common perception of the church. That common perception is this: relationships that do not glorify GOD can have absolutely no element of genuine LOVE. The case with most preachers is that they believe they must immediately disqualify, without further review, any relationship that has even the slightest trace of sinful origins. I believed the same. Being a married preacher of the Gospel at that time of my life, safely within the confines of a “loving marriage”, I could not comprehend how two people could claim to be in LOVE and yet put each other’s mortal souls in danger. I know that I am not the only one who has heard the saying, “real love waits”.

What is “real LOVE” though? Who really knows, and how many of us actually walk in it? If the truth be told, many husbands and wives do not walk in LOVE with one another. Many parents do not walk in LOVE with their children. Many shepherds do not walk in LOVE with their flock. Many Believers do not walk in LOVE with their Savior. And yet, as is so often the case with the spirit of religion, the church society has SINGLED OUT “unmarried couples” to put on display as the ultimate example of a loveless relationship. While conveniently overlooking the hatred, bitterness, rebellion, jealousy, anger, depression, etcetera…, in their own homes and churches, they pick at the splinter in the eye of those that have found a measure of LOVE in some unaccepted or unconventional way. And why are these “unmarried couples” the castaways of the church-world, relationship ethics committee? It is because they are classified as fornicators.

In actuality, most people do not even know what the word ‘fornication’ means. What answer pops into your head when I ask, “What is the meaning of fornication?” If you are like most people, your answer is, “sex outside of marriage”. BANNNNHHHH! Wrong answer!!! Fornication’s literal translation is “illicit sexual activity”. Fornication is the spirit behind masturbation, pornography, adultery, molestation – and also, sex prior to publicly exchanging wedding vows (what many mistakenly refer to as “premarital sex”). However, by that definition, how much fornication is going on in so many marriages? If we apply the same blanket generalization to ALL instances of sexual perversion – that generalization being that in the presence of fornication there is the absence of LOVE – then even many married couples would join the castaway club!

One of the most powerful statements in the bible for me is found in 1 John 4:8, “…GOD is LOVE”. Yahweh GOD and LOVE are actually made equal in this scripture, without prejudice or distinction! Another of my favorites is found in 1 Peter 4:8, “Above all, LOVE each other deeply, because LOVE covers over a multitude of sins.” You see the truth of the matter is LOVE is the most powerful force in the universe because LOVE is the very essence of The Father’s nature.  John 3:16 says, “For GOD so LOVED the world…” The Father sent His son to die for our sins out of the pure LOVE of His essence. Aren’t we all made in the likeness and image of this same GOD who is called LOVE? Yes, certainly we are! Therefore every human being is born with the capacity to LOVE. LOVE is as natural to us as breathing. The capability to LOVE is a part of the standard makeup of every living soul.

There is no one that has become perfectly like The Creator. We are all striving to be like HIM. We are all born with a measure of LOVE, a measure of GOD’s Nature that develops according to how it is nurtured. It is that measure that enables even atheists, skin heads and murders to love those closest to their hearts. Although hard to admit, most of us know these things to be true and have personally witnessed a measure of LOVE being released through someone we would deem totally wicked. That being the case, why is it so hard for some Christians to believe that even though a relationship is forged in sin, there is yet LOVE in the midst of it?  Two homosexuals can be in love; two teenagers can be in love; a mistress can be in love with her married man, and a married man his mistress; a john can be in love with his hooker and a hooker her pimp! And while it is certainly right and proper for a couple to remain sexually pure until they officially unite in matrimony (when that is a righteously appropriate option), we know in this world it very seldom happens that way. Therefore, if we are truly going to help couples that have fallen into this tar pit of fornication escape its grips; we are going to have to start by acknowledging the genuine LOVE that these people share. By attempting to dis-validate their experience of love, we push them into isolation and shut ourselves off from the revelatory insight that can truly set them free.

The bible reads in John 8:32, “And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” We as church leaders need to be set free by the truth before we can set anyone else free with it. The truth that we need to know in regards to sinful relationships is that these couples do fall in LOVE, and their LOVE covers over the sin of their fornication. The conviction may be in their hearts, but it gives way to the LOVE that consumes them. Pease let no one misunderstand me! I clearly and emphatically declare that pre-wedding-ceremony-sex is sinful; IT IS FORNICATION. Homosexuality is a sin; adultery is a sin; teenage sexual love affairs are a sin. The fornication that is birthed out of these relationships is not a product of LOVE, it is a product of lust. Yet simultaneously, I am also clearly and emphatically acknowledging that there is still genuine LOVE in these relationships that is expressed through sexuality.

Please check back in for the Part 2 of this powerful article. Are you are a subscriber to the Insights from Dr. Intimacy blog? Be sure to subscribe to be notified of new articles. Your email address will never be sold or shared.

In the Power of  HIS Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Breaking the bonds of sexual perversion ~ Healing the bonds of heart-2-heart intimacy…

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Copyright © 2013 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright and legal notices on this page.

The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Reference Book 2013 Edition, It’s Finally Here!!!

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The first edition of this book, published in 2004, has been read all over the world in countries such as Nigeria, London, Canada, Australia and Germany. The most unique book ever of its kind; it delves deeply into the subject matter of God-designed sexuality, sexual sin and how sex is relative to our worship of God. Thousands of church leaders and lay people have received help in getting understanding and true deliverance concerning issues of sexual perversion. Many more, including those outside of the church, have been touched and encouraged by Laneen’s transparency in sharing her powerful testimony.

The Spirits of Sexual Perversion Reference Book, 2013 Edition includes significant enhancements. Enjoy a dedicated chapter on “sex demons”, also referred to as incubus. There is a new chapter for married couples. Along with these additions, you will find 11 different spirits of sexual perversion discussed in deep and insightful detail, each in its own designated chapter. Also, enjoy powerful application revelations in a section entitled “Insights from Dr. Intimacy”. What you can count on that has not changed is Dr. Intimacy’s heart felt transparency and compassion, which encourages you every step of the way as you read God’s Handbook on Sex Education — The Encyclopedia of Christian Sexuality! Prophetess Laneen Haniah, a prolific author and lecturer better known as “Dr. Intimacy”, gives an enlightening look into the naked truth about sex, intimacy and worship from a holistic perspective.

A COMPLETE GUIDE TO UNDERSTANDING SEXUALITY, INTIMACY WITH GOD AND THE ENEMY’S DEVICES OF SEXUAL PERVERSION!

•God’s purpose for sex

• Sexual blood covenants

• Satan’s true motive for perversion

• Intimacy guidelines for marriage

• Seeing perversion when it’s not physically present

• Recognizing perversion in the church

• 12 Steps to deliverance

• Knowing how to tell when you’re free

• Fornication

• Masturbation

• Adultery

• Incest

• Homosexuality

• Intersexuals

• Prostitution

• Pornography

• Molestation

• Bestiality

• Sexual Lust

• Incubus

• Promiscuity

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BREAK FREE In Intimacy – This IS DELIVERANCE!

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People often ask me questions about how to experience true deliverance. Sometimes deliverance can seem like an elusive mystery, or unattainable goal. Yet, I have learned on my own quest for deliverance that the shortest distance from where I am to the deliverance that I need, is the measure of distance between my face and the floor! There is no surer and more thorough way to receive an authentic breakthrough than to break free in intimacy with the LORD.

Worship is intimacy with The Father – it is pure, mind-blowing, flesh-numbing, over-powering, over-flowing, gushing, explosive intimacy. Real intimacy with your Creator is what brings about true deliverance. Prayer changes things, but intimacy transforms you. When something changes, it can always change back. Change is only temporary, but transformation is everlasting!

Your true deliverance is in the intimacy of worship, in the intimate oneness of time in His presence where there is transformation. Once He transforms you, you can never go back to being what you once were. You cannot stay bound, you cannot stay chained. You cannot remain the same when you are really touched by Yahweh God in your intimate places! It is like a virgin that will never be the same once touched; it is impossible to be what you used to be after The Lover of Your Soul touches you.

When you finally become intimate with Him and allow Him to penetrate your spirit and impregnate you, YOU WILL NOT BE THE SAME. This very truth that I am stating is why part 4 of the Understanding Intimacy series, is MY FAVORITE article on this blog. If I were you, I would read it over and over and over again. I would print it out and post it around me. I would post it on my social media networks and even write a daily decree based on this revelation of intimacy with Yahweh.

Why do I say this? Why do I feel so strongly about it? Because the moment you forget it, defeat sets in. The moment you allow yourself to believe that true deliverance can come by any other means, is the moment the enemy has a back door entrance to steal, kill and destroy your purpose in life. I know this all too well and too personally. I had been “away” for a while, off the scene where no one could find me. And to be totally honest with you, I disappeared because I just didn’t feel worthy of this call on my life.

I had been fighting a battle for a long time, questioning my worth to The Body of Christ and even as a human being. The more I pressed in to be a blessing to the people Yahweh has assigned me to, the further away I seemed to get from actually fulfilling my purpose. But The Word of The Lord came to me one night as I worshiped, and by His Word I was made clean… I was made whole… I was made aware once again that the battle is not mine, it is The LORD’s! But the only way to turn the battle over to Him and stop trying to fight it myself was through the oneness of intimate worship.

 I know why the enemy wants my hands to stay still from typing and my mouth shut from speaking, but I declare that I will not be still, nor will I be silent! My assignment is not to teach people about sex, or to deal with people’s sexual issues. The topics that are addressed in this ministry platform are necessary discussions, but only because such issues often steal from us the privilege to worship Our Creator freely. So go for yours! Go after your total deliverance in His intimate presence. That is what I did. I worshiped in pure intimacy and broke free. BREAK FREE in His presence!

Your deliverance is in Intimacy with God. True and lasting deliverance is in the transformation that happens when you BEAK FREE in intimacy, pure worship intimacy…

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Worship from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2012 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright and legal notices on this page.

Prophecy: The BEST year of your life, or the WORST year of your life…

And thus says YHWH The LORD concerning 2013:

FOR THE YEAR OF 2013 THE SAINTS AND CALLED ONES WILL HAVE EITHER — THE BEST YEAR THEY HAVE EVER HAD IN LIFE, OR THE WORST YEAR THEY HAVE EVER HAD IN LIFE.

NOW IS THE TIME to position yourself to choose which category you will be in! This WORD is especially applicable to leaders. For your complacency in pursuing the fullness of your purpose has become a stumbling block to those that have been assigned to follow after you. For until you move, your followers cannot move; until you get free, they cannot get free; until you elevate, they cannot elevate.

For those that do make the proper preparation, 2013 will be a year of mind-blowing, over-taking blessings and favor in every area of your life. You will cry from amazement at the goodness of YHWH God. But for those that continue to dwell comfortably in complacency, refusing to fight for destiny, 2013 will be a year of such pressing devastation that many WILL NOT LIVE TO SEE THE END OF IT. In 2013, people will die unexpectedly and will shock those around them. Leaders that are in the way, those that have been a stumbling block due to allowing themselves to REMAIN STUCK, will be moved out of the way!!!

Be not distracted by the holidays. We use the birth of Christ as an excuse every year to indulge in selfish ambitions and the pursuit of worldly gain. The Christ was not born in December. Christmas, correctly called “Xmas”, is a ploy of the enemy to distract people from properly preparing to transition into the new year. The focus on this false celebration to a fake God completely consumes the thoughts of man, woman, boy and girl until almost the very last day of the year – Xing out preparation, Xing out consecration, Xing out gratefulness and thanksgiving, Xing out the ability to quietly hear the direction of The Spirit for your next assignment and how to get there! Yes it is correctly called “Xmas”.

Go ahead and enjoy your family and friends, buy gifts for your loved ones and those less fortunate, but don’t lose focus on the urgency of the hour. How you end your year is how the new year will begin. Why do you think this celebration takes place on the 25th day of the month? It leaves us only 6 days until the beginning of the new year – 6 – the number of the fall of man, the number of the beast, the number that represents his reign of terror in your life yet one more year!

BE NOT DECIEVED PEOPLE OF THE MOST HIGH GOD! 2013 can be either the BEST year of your life so far, or the WORST year of your life so far. It is your actions that will decide. CONSECRATE YOURSELF LIKE NEVER BEFORE.  Don’t wait until the holidays are over. DO IT NOW! Fast, weep, repent: cut off every distraction, lay aside every weight and sin that so easily besets you. Clean up your house, clean up your relationships, clean up your finances, clean out your hearts of greed, lust, bitterness, unforgiveness, covetousness, strife, arguments, pride, gluttony, deception, rebellion, gossip and all manner of evil! Overcome your sinful struggles, you have the victory! Correct every area of disobedience in your life. Complete or take up those neglected assignments that have lain dormant (books, magazines, albums, churches, etc…) This is a sober and solemn time for you to consecrate yourself to prepare for The LORD to do wonders in your life in 2013!!! While the world wastes away in the revelry of the holidays, we must prepare to reign as sons and daughters of The King of Kings in 2013!

The BEST year of your life, or the WORST year of your life… YOU DECIDE TODAY!

~Prophetic Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © 11/30/2012

Seriously??? You Think You Can Deliver the Person Who Hasn’t Even Allowed THE POWER OF THE CROSS to Help Them?!!!

A painful reality hit me last night after I spoke to a very dear friend of mine who has been living in wretched disobedience for at least five years now. This place that he is in, is a place that only the Spirit of God can help him get out of. For the scripture says in Hebrews 6:4-6,

“4 It is impossible for those who have once been enlightened, who have tasted the heavenly gift, who have shared in the Holy Spirit, 5 who have tasted the goodness of the word of God and the powers of the coming age 6 and who have fallen away, to be brought back to repentance [by another human being]. To their loss they are crucifying the Son of God all over again and subjecting him to public disgrace. (NIV)” [added for interpretation]

I am ashamed of my pride! How could I think that my love is great enough to bring him out of his sin and disobedience, when the Love of The One Who Died for him has not been enough? WOW!!! Yeshua forgive me for insulting Your Sacrifice!!

Before a person can receive mentorship or guidance from anyone, they first need to be set free through the power of their own press of prayer and fasting. Jesus Himself said, “…This kind can come out by nothing but prayer and fasting. (Mark 9:29b, NKJV)”

In 1 Cor 15:33 it reads, “Do not be misled, bad company corrupts good character.” In Ps 1:1 we are exhorted to remove ourselves from those that dwell comfortably in sin. As long as you continue to try to help people like this, you are only contaminating your own walk. All you can do for a person like this is intercede for them in the Spirit — from a distant and detached place.

Read this carefully…

…THERE IS NOTHING THAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP A FALLEN SAINT THAT WILLFULLY AND DELIBERATELY CHOOSES THE PATH OF SIN AND DISOBEDIENCE!

I set myself FREE this morning. Like and comment if you intend to follow me and loose yourself from those that are married to disobedience!!!

#THE END!

~Daily Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © 11/19/2012

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“IT HAPPENED WHILE YOU SLEPT”!

Yesterday morning my sister’s water broke around 7am. We were sure that her baby would be delivered sometime yesterday. But after midnight it still had not come and she had made very little progress in the labor process. I well expected another long day of labor at the pace things were moving along, so I at last laid down to rest. This morning I was awakened early by a text announcing the delivery. And THE WORD OF THE LORD came to me, “IT HAPPENED WHILE YOU SLEPT”!

• Looking for…
“And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and while he slept, He took one of his ribs or a part of his side and closed up the [place with] flesh. (Gen 2:21, AMP)”

• Preparing for…
“Around midnight Boaz suddenly woke up and turned over. He was surprised to find a woman lying at his feet! (Ruth 3:8, NLT)”

• Crying Out for…
“At this, I woke up and looked around. My sleep had been very sweet. (Jer 31:26, NLT)”

• Trusting for…
“I lay down and slept, yet I woke up in safety, for the LORD was watching over me (Ps 3:5, NLT)”

• Desperate for…
“Suddenly an angel of the Lord appeared and a light shone in the cell. He struck Peter on the side and woke him up. “Quick, get up!” he said, and the chains fell off Peter’s wrists. (Acts 12:7, NIV)”

• Fighting for…
“That night the angel of the LORD went out to the Assyrian camp and killed 185,000 Assyrian soldiers. When the surviving Assyrians woke up the next morning, they found corpses everywhere. (2 Kings 19:35, NLT)”

The LORD YHWH says to all who have an ear to hear, that those things that you have been looking for, preparing for, crying out for, trusting for, desperate for and/or fighting for shall come to pass while you sleep! You have done all that you can in your own power. You have been faithful to use all of the power and resources that He has given you to work with. Now he says, “25 For I have given rest to the weary and joy to the sorrowing.” Once the water breaks, delivery is inevitable. Whether it happens within moments or a couple of more days, this short wait is nothing compared to the time you have already put in. So go ahead rest, WHEN YOU WAKE UP, THE WAIT WILL BE OVER!!!

~Prophetic Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © 11/17/2012

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Confuse What’s Confusing You!

Ever have a situation in which you were confused and the more you talked about it, meditated on it and even as you prayed about it, the more confused you became?!!

The truth of the matter is, whenever you are

 really confused about something, your prayers will not help your confusion. Now I know that may sound… er… well… uh…. “confusing”, but it’s not really. When you pray in your human language, the bible refers to that as “praying in your understanding”. This means that the prayers that you offer up are prayed according to your own limited insight of the situation, and uh, HELLO – we just established that you are confused! You don’t have clear insight, you are praying with the same confused mind that can’t figure out the situation to begin with. So what do you do to break the bands of confusion? Look at 1 Samuel 7:9-10,

”9 And Samuel took a suckling lamb and offered it as a whole burnt offering to the LORD. Then Samuel cried out to the LORD for Israel, and the LORD answered him. 10 Now as Samuel was offering up the burnt offering, the Philistines drew near to battle against Israel. But the LORD thundered with a loud thunder upon the Philistines that day, and so confused them that they were overcome before Israel.“

Samuel did not try to pray a deep, theological and impressive prayer. The enemy was approaching quickly and the people were in danger and didn’t know what to do. Samuel worshiped – he offered up burnt offerings – he worshiped. After he worshiped he simply cried out for help. He didn’t tell God how to help him, or what to do; he just humbly cried out for the sufficiency of God’s mighty deliverance and God answered him – not with words of instruction – but by confusing the enemies of Israel.

STOP PRAYING AND START WORSHIPING! Only through worship can you enter into His presence, where there is NO confusion. In times of confusion, don’t let pride, or your obsession to be in control of everything, hinder you. Praise and worship the King of Kings and let Him confuse what is confusing you!

~Daily Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © 11/12/2012

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It’s 12 p.m. — has God “Liked” you today?

There are those of us that post on Facebook all day long. And let’s admit it, you know you get that little rush of excitement when you see someone has “liked” something on your page, lol. But what are you promoting on your FB page? With your opportunity to have an audience before billions of people, are you using it to Please YHWH God, help others and build the Kingdom? In Romans 14:17-19 it says,

“17 For the Kingdom of God is not a matter of what we eat or drink, but of living a life of goodness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. 18 If you serve Christ with this attitude, you will please God, and others will approve of you, too. 19 So then, let us aim for harmony in the church and try to build each other up.”

So many times I am saddened when I see that FB is used by Believers to tear one another down, gossip, expose, share coarse jokes, and sow discord. I have been guilty of it myself at times. But today I asked myself the question, “If God was on Facebook, would He “like” my page?” You should ask yourself the same question. From this day forward, let your page reflect the truth in Romans so that even God will “like” you on FB!

~Daily Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © November 7, 2012

Is Sexual Sin Caused by a Spirit?

While visiting another blog that addresses homosexuality amongst “so-called believers” (that is the author’s sentiment, not necessarily mine); I was struck by a statement that the author made. He was debating the existence of “the spirit of homosexuality”, claiming that people used the idea of demonic possession as an excuse to continue on in sin.  In his opinion, people sin by choice alone, influenced solely by their own sin nature and the spirit of lust. He was particularly disturbed that he had observed Pastor Benny Hinn “casting out” a spirit of homosexuality. And it may be good to mention that the gentleman that authored the article, formerly lived as a homosexual and has since dedicated himself to being a voice against it. Needless to say, he is very passionate about what he shares. His view is simply this, “There is  no spirit of heterosexuality and thus no spirit of homosexuality.”  

I thought his article brought up a very good question: Is sexual sin caused by a spirit?

I tend to agree with pastor Benny on this point. I do believe there is a spirit of homosexuality. As a matter of fact, I believe that nearly every sinful or demonic act is influenced by a particular type of demonic spirit. The author of the aforementioned article, as well as many other people, focus too greatly on how demons are named in the bible. When the truth of the matter is, the names of demons are not all that significant; it is their function and their type that matters. So you may not always see demons “named” in the Bible, but their functions and types are clearly outlined. In other words, their type is made plain by what they do; the fruit they produce in the life of the person they are affecting.

How often did we see YHshua (Jesus) cast demons out of people to heal them of an illness? “When evening had come, they brought to Him many who were demon-possessed. And He cast out the spirits with a word, and healed all who were sick.”  Mat 8:16, NKJV

Even in the case of Mary Magdalene, she was delivered from prostitution by the casting out of 7 demons. Now when He rose early on the first day of the week, He appeared first to Mary Magdalene, out of whom He had cast seven demons.” Mark 7:9, NKJV (Her prostitution is “implied” in other scriptures. She was referred to specifically as “an especially wicked sinner”.)

In actuality,  the bible very seldom identified demonic spirits by a name.  Evil spirits were identified as being – evil, wicked, unclean, perverse and so on – but seldom by an actual distinct name.  And Jesus summoned to Him His twelve disciples and gave them power and authority over unclean spirits, to drive them out, and to cure all kinds of disease and all kinds of weakness and infirmity.” Mat 10:1, AMP

Ok… So if there is now a clear understanding that demons are acknowledged, but not necessarily named, in scripture – let’s deal with the next point:“There is  no spirit of heterosexuality and thus no spirit of homosexuality.”

This statement actually made me laugh. It was borderline ridiculous, in my opinion. We do not need different spirits or “type spirits” of righteousness; such as a “spirit of heterosexuality” (if heterosexuality is being implied to be a good thing in this instance, within the confines of a marriage). We don’t need a “spirit of kindness”, “spirit of truth”, “spirit of sobriety”, etc.  In order to live righteously, there is only need of One Spirit and that is, The Holy Spirit. All righteous living is a result of the Spirit of  YHWH God at work in our lives. He is the Spirit of Truth, Spirit of Love, Spirit of Obedience… He is the very source of all that is good and right; including pure, loving intimacy between a husband and wife (heterosexuality).

In terms of heterosexual sin, sex taking place outside of the confines of marriage, that influence would be typed as a “spirit of fornication”. But in essence at the end of the day, all sexual sin – all sin of any type for that matter – is influenced by  “the spirit of lust”. The term “spirit of lust” is actually the very definition of  ‘satan’. So all sin is influenced by the spirit of satan, and likewise all righteousness is influenced by “the Spirit of YHWH God”! But the Spirit of YHWH God is omni-present because He can be everywhere, and in everyone all at once. The spirit of satan is not so. He and his cohorts are limited to influencing or indwelling only one person at a time. So satan sends out his workers like soldiers, in groups specifically assigned and trained to do (or cause) specific acts of disobedience and/or types of oppression.

So the question is: Is sexual sin caused by a spirit?

The answer is: Yes and No! 

Just as the presence of the Holy Spirit can cause you to live righteously, the presence of a “Helly” spirit can cause you to live wickedly. I believe that ignorance concerning the workings of demonic spirits in our lives causes so many Christians to live a defeated life. Identifying an evil spirit does not give us an excuse to sin; it gives us ammunition to stop sinning! Naming a spirit according to its type, is just a way of specifying how the spirit of satan is working in your life more precisely. This is actually very empowering, giving insight into what weaknesses the enemy takes advantage of, to interfere with the abundance of our lives – spirit, soul and body! After all, YHshua never cast satan out of anyone, he always cast out demons. Nor does scripture say he cast “lust” out of Mary Magdalene. It says he cast out seven demons.

My only precaution on the ‘no’ side of my answer would be using the word “cause”, since you can only be “influenced” to sin, instead of forced. We all get to choose our own path and which spirit’s influence we give in to (unless one is truly “possessed” from childhood – but that’s another topic!) So although different spirits of evil may be the cause of sin in your life, it is because of your own choice that such sin is actually manifested.

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

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