You Can’t Cast Out Love: Part 1 – Fornication and Forbidden Love

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This article has been in my belly growing and developing for quite some time now. It feels long overdue, but finally I am in labor to give birth to a revelation that I believe may save some lives and some destinies… and maybe some potentially good relationships that would have otherwise been cast into the fire. So here it goes and I do hope I get some insightful feedback on this one…

“Another day lying on the bed in emotional agony; pain stabbing me in the chest as if a finely sharpened pitch fork is being plunged into my heart over and over again. I feel hollow inside, as if a vortex of nothingness has sucked my spirit into an abyss of blackness. There is no light anywhere around me, there is no joy, there is no comfort, there is no peace, there is no hope… There is nothing except endless, painful, agonizing torture every day.

They told me that it is a spirit of depression, so they prayed to break its hold over me – but it didn’t work. They told me that it was a soul tie, so they prayed to cut it – but it didn’t work. They told me to recite Psalm 23, three times a day for 30 days – but it didn’t work. They told me that it was a spirit of lust trying to draw me into sin and that I must fight against it – repent, bind it, and renounce it, and I shall be free – but that didn’t work either. They all had their explanations, but to no avail. Not one of their methods, prescriptions, remedies, prayers, or scriptures brought relief to the insane ache that constantly resonated throughout my being…”

Have you ever experienced this kind of pain? I know that I certainly have. It is the pain and agony that many experience as a relationship ends. It is the type of pain that is indescribable. It is the type of feeling that only those who have felt it can relate to. I can recall one particularly sudden break-up that left me in this type of pain. The first night after the break-up, I was lying on my bed in the dark, barely able to breathe. Sharp pains pierced my heart with every beat. I was fading in and out of consciousness, as dizziness swirled around in my head. I was sweating and feverish. I could not stand up because my legs would not work. I could not eat, as every part of my body rejected the notion of taking in life-sustaining food, when death lived inside of me. There was the constant taste of metal and blood in my mouth, and bitterness in my stomach.

I was dying – I was literally dying, and it was the first time that I knew someone could really die of a broken heart. I longed for death at that moment. I wanted to die and I could not ever see myself whole again at that time. Thinking of my family, I knew that I had to somehow hold on. In order to make it through the night, I asked a friend to come and stay with me. I knew at the very least, I wouldn’t die there in my home alone. It was a rough night for her though. Every 30 minutes or so, I let out a piercing scream into the atmosphere, without explanation. She didn’t know what was wrong with me, and I didn’t know how to explain it. She asked me if I needed to go to the hospital. But, what would have been the point of that – Can a broken heart be fixed in the ER?

They of church and religion have for too long, erroneously attempted to rectify this type of pain through ineffective methods that often times lead to great frustration for the one suffering. Me being a preacher, I have been guilty of this error in times past. It was not until I had to walk through it that I understood the error in how I had mishandled people who had come to me in this type of pain. I repeated to those seeking my help all of the things that had been said to me, “You need to pray; you need to fast; you don’t need him anyway; God has better things in store for you…” These were all truthful sayings, but they acted as band aids on bullet wounds. The so-called doctors of the faith had misdiagnosed my affliction and prescribed the wrong medicine, based on their wrong diagnosis.

What I have now learned through experience and revelation of the scriptures is that relationships forged in sin, are not necessarily absent of LOVE. Before my fall, I gave way to the common perception of the church. That common perception is this: relationships that do not glorify GOD can have absolutely no element of genuine LOVE. The case with most preachers is that they believe they must immediately disqualify, without further review, any relationship that has even the slightest trace of sinful origins. I believed the same. Being a married preacher of the Gospel at that time of my life, safely within the confines of a “loving marriage”, I could not comprehend how two people could claim to be in LOVE and yet put each other’s mortal souls in danger. I know that I am not the only one who has heard the saying, “real love waits”.

What is “real LOVE” though? Who really knows, and how many of us actually walk in it? If the truth be told, many husbands and wives do not walk in LOVE with one another. Many parents do not walk in LOVE with their children. Many shepherds do not walk in LOVE with their flock. Many Believers do not walk in LOVE with their Savior. And yet, as is so often the case with the spirit of religion, the church society has SINGLED OUT “unmarried couples” to put on display as the ultimate example of a loveless relationship. While conveniently overlooking the hatred, bitterness, rebellion, jealousy, anger, depression, etcetera…, in their own homes and churches, they pick at the splinter in the eye of those that have found a measure of LOVE in some unaccepted or unconventional way. And why are these “unmarried couples” the castaways of the church-world, relationship ethics committee? It is because they are classified as fornicators.

In actuality, most people do not even know what the word ‘fornication’ means. What answer pops into your head when I ask, “What is the meaning of fornication?” If you are like most people, your answer is, “sex outside of marriage”. BANNNNHHHH! Wrong answer!!! Fornication’s literal translation is “illicit sexual activity”. Fornication is the spirit behind masturbation, pornography, adultery, molestation – and also, sex prior to publicly exchanging wedding vows (what many mistakenly refer to as “premarital sex”). However, by that definition, how much fornication is going on in so many marriages? If we apply the same blanket generalization to ALL instances of sexual perversion – that generalization being that in the presence of fornication there is the absence of LOVE – then even many married couples would join the castaway club!

One of the most powerful statements in the bible for me is found in 1 John 4:8, “…GOD is LOVE”. Yahweh GOD and LOVE are actually made equal in this scripture, without prejudice or distinction! Another of my favorites is found in 1 Peter 4:8, “Above all, LOVE each other deeply, because LOVE covers over a multitude of sins.” You see the truth of the matter is LOVE is the most powerful force in the universe because LOVE is the very essence of The Father’s nature.  John 3:16 says, “For GOD so LOVED the world…” The Father sent His son to die for our sins out of the pure LOVE of His essence. Aren’t we all made in the likeness and image of this same GOD who is called LOVE? Yes, certainly we are! Therefore every human being is born with the capacity to LOVE. LOVE is as natural to us as breathing. The capability to LOVE is a part of the standard makeup of every living soul.

There is no one that has become perfectly like The Creator. We are all striving to be like HIM. We are all born with a measure of LOVE, a measure of GOD’s Nature that develops according to how it is nurtured. It is that measure that enables even atheists, skin heads and murders to love those closest to their hearts. Although hard to admit, most of us know these things to be true and have personally witnessed a measure of LOVE being released through someone we would deem totally wicked. That being the case, why is it so hard for some Christians to believe that even though a relationship is forged in sin, there is yet LOVE in the midst of it?  Two homosexuals can be in love; two teenagers can be in love; a mistress can be in love with her married man, and a married man his mistress; a john can be in love with his hooker and a hooker her pimp! And while it is certainly right and proper for a couple to remain sexually pure until they officially unite in matrimony (when that is a righteously appropriate option), we know in this world it very seldom happens that way. Therefore, if we are truly going to help couples that have fallen into this tar pit of fornication escape its grips; we are going to have to start by acknowledging the genuine LOVE that these people share. By attempting to dis-validate their experience of love, we push them into isolation and shut ourselves off from the revelatory insight that can truly set them free.

The bible reads in John 8:32, “And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” We as church leaders need to be set free by the truth before we can set anyone else free with it. The truth that we need to know in regards to sinful relationships is that these couples do fall in LOVE, and their LOVE covers over the sin of their fornication. The conviction may be in their hearts, but it gives way to the LOVE that consumes them. Pease let no one misunderstand me! I clearly and emphatically declare that pre-wedding-ceremony-sex is sinful; IT IS FORNICATION. Homosexuality is a sin; adultery is a sin; teenage sexual love affairs are a sin. The fornication that is birthed out of these relationships is not a product of LOVE, it is a product of lust. Yet simultaneously, I am also clearly and emphatically acknowledging that there is still genuine LOVE in these relationships that is expressed through sexuality.

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In the Power of  HIS Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Breaking the bonds of sexual perversion ~ Healing the bonds of heart-2-heart intimacy…

www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2013 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright and legal notices on this page.

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BREAK FREE In Intimacy – This IS DELIVERANCE!

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People often ask me questions about how to experience true deliverance. Sometimes deliverance can seem like an elusive mystery, or unattainable goal. Yet, I have learned on my own quest for deliverance that the shortest distance from where I am to the deliverance that I need, is the measure of distance between my face and the floor! There is no surer and more thorough way to receive an authentic breakthrough than to break free in intimacy with the LORD.

Worship is intimacy with The Father – it is pure, mind-blowing, flesh-numbing, over-powering, over-flowing, gushing, explosive intimacy. Real intimacy with your Creator is what brings about true deliverance. Prayer changes things, but intimacy transforms you. When something changes, it can always change back. Change is only temporary, but transformation is everlasting!

Your true deliverance is in the intimacy of worship, in the intimate oneness of time in His presence where there is transformation. Once He transforms you, you can never go back to being what you once were. You cannot stay bound, you cannot stay chained. You cannot remain the same when you are really touched by Yahweh God in your intimate places! It is like a virgin that will never be the same once touched; it is impossible to be what you used to be after The Lover of Your Soul touches you.

When you finally become intimate with Him and allow Him to penetrate your spirit and impregnate you, YOU WILL NOT BE THE SAME. This very truth that I am stating is why part 4 of the Understanding Intimacy series, is MY FAVORITE article on this blog. If I were you, I would read it over and over and over again. I would print it out and post it around me. I would post it on my social media networks and even write a daily decree based on this revelation of intimacy with Yahweh.

Why do I say this? Why do I feel so strongly about it? Because the moment you forget it, defeat sets in. The moment you allow yourself to believe that true deliverance can come by any other means, is the moment the enemy has a back door entrance to steal, kill and destroy your purpose in life. I know this all too well and too personally. I had been “away” for a while, off the scene where no one could find me. And to be totally honest with you, I disappeared because I just didn’t feel worthy of this call on my life.

I had been fighting a battle for a long time, questioning my worth to The Body of Christ and even as a human being. The more I pressed in to be a blessing to the people Yahweh has assigned me to, the further away I seemed to get from actually fulfilling my purpose. But The Word of The Lord came to me one night as I worshiped, and by His Word I was made clean… I was made whole… I was made aware once again that the battle is not mine, it is The LORD’s! But the only way to turn the battle over to Him and stop trying to fight it myself was through the oneness of intimate worship.

 I know why the enemy wants my hands to stay still from typing and my mouth shut from speaking, but I declare that I will not be still, nor will I be silent! My assignment is not to teach people about sex, or to deal with people’s sexual issues. The topics that are addressed in this ministry platform are necessary discussions, but only because such issues often steal from us the privilege to worship Our Creator freely. So go for yours! Go after your total deliverance in His intimate presence. That is what I did. I worshiped in pure intimacy and broke free. BREAK FREE in His presence!

Your deliverance is in Intimacy with God. True and lasting deliverance is in the transformation that happens when you BEAK FREE in intimacy, pure worship intimacy…

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Worship from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2012 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright and legal notices on this page.

Will You Kiss God In Public?

While sitting in Panera tonight working on a project, there was a couple seated directly in front of me that were very much enjoying one another’s company. They shamelessly showed their affection by nuzzling, kissing, hugging, feeding each other, etc… They were so overt in their display that I was a little embarrassed. I tried not to look at them but it was so hard because they were just a few feet away. Every so often as I glanced at their exchanges, I noted that they were completely oblivious of me, or anyone else in that place.

I went on with my work, listening to worship music on my headphones when one of my favorite worship songs came on. Suddenly I had an overwhelming urge to worship. I struggled to restrain myself from lifting my hands and praising. Then I heard a voice in my spirit say, “Will you not kiss me in public? Am I not worthy of the same public display of affection that this couple has shown one another?” With these words I was blown away and released! Following the example of the love birds seated in front of me, I began to shamelessly show my affection for my Heavenly Lover. I lifted my hands, and I sang and praised and cried and smiled and… I was completely oblivious to anyone else in that place!

Then the couple got up to leave, and I can only imagine that they were on their way somewhere that they could finish what they had started. And this is what I have to say to you:

#If you will kiss God in public, He will blow your mind when you get home!

~Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © 12/10/2012

“IT HAPPENED WHILE YOU SLEPT”!

Yesterday morning my sister’s water broke around 7am. We were sure that her baby would be delivered sometime yesterday. But after midnight it still had not come and she had made very little progress in the labor process. I well expected another long day of labor at the pace things were moving along, so I at last laid down to rest. This morning I was awakened early by a text announcing the delivery. And THE WORD OF THE LORD came to me, “IT HAPPENED WHILE YOU SLEPT”!

• Looking for…
“And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and while he slept, He took one of his ribs or a part of his side and closed up the [place with] flesh. (Gen 2:21, AMP)”

• Preparing for…
“Around midnight Boaz suddenly woke up and turned over. He was surprised to find a woman lying at his feet! (Ruth 3:8, NLT)”

• Crying Out for…
“At this, I woke up and looked around. My sleep had been very sweet. (Jer 31:26, NLT)”

• Trusting for…
“I lay down and slept, yet I woke up in safety, for the LORD was watching over me (Ps 3:5, NLT)”

• Desperate for…
“Suddenly an angel of the Lord appeared and a light shone in the cell. He struck Peter on the side and woke him up. “Quick, get up!” he said, and the chains fell off Peter’s wrists. (Acts 12:7, NIV)”

• Fighting for…
“That night the angel of the LORD went out to the Assyrian camp and killed 185,000 Assyrian soldiers. When the surviving Assyrians woke up the next morning, they found corpses everywhere. (2 Kings 19:35, NLT)”

The LORD YHWH says to all who have an ear to hear, that those things that you have been looking for, preparing for, crying out for, trusting for, desperate for and/or fighting for shall come to pass while you sleep! You have done all that you can in your own power. You have been faithful to use all of the power and resources that He has given you to work with. Now he says, “25 For I have given rest to the weary and joy to the sorrowing.” Once the water breaks, delivery is inevitable. Whether it happens within moments or a couple of more days, this short wait is nothing compared to the time you have already put in. So go ahead rest, WHEN YOU WAKE UP, THE WAIT WILL BE OVER!!!

~Prophetic Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © 11/17/2012

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It’s 12 p.m. — has God “Liked” you today?

There are those of us that post on Facebook all day long. And let’s admit it, you know you get that little rush of excitement when you see someone has “liked” something on your page, lol. But what are you promoting on your FB page? With your opportunity to have an audience before billions of people, are you using it to Please YHWH God, help others and build the Kingdom? In Romans 14:17-19 it says,

“17 For the Kingdom of God is not a matter of what we eat or drink, but of living a life of goodness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. 18 If you serve Christ with this attitude, you will please God, and others will approve of you, too. 19 So then, let us aim for harmony in the church and try to build each other up.”

So many times I am saddened when I see that FB is used by Believers to tear one another down, gossip, expose, share coarse jokes, and sow discord. I have been guilty of it myself at times. But today I asked myself the question, “If God was on Facebook, would He “like” my page?” You should ask yourself the same question. From this day forward, let your page reflect the truth in Romans so that even God will “like” you on FB!

~Daily Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © November 7, 2012