Self Perception…

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…Sitting in a fancy mall today, eating apples and peanut butter I had packed for lunch,  I began to reflect back. 10 years ago, I sat in a mall food court eating homemade p&j sandwiches with my children because it was all we could afford. I was so embarrassed as people walked by staring and sneering at us. Today, I ate apples and peanut butter in a mall food court because I wanted to, not because I had to.  Many people stared at me,  and I didn’t care the slightest bit.

At that moment, I realized that embarrassment is not about what other people see you doing, it’s how you see yourself in what you’re doing.  10 years ago I saw myself as a poor woman who couldn’t afford to buy mall food.  Today I saw myself as a wise woman who didn’t want to waste money on food that poisons me.

When your  perspective changes,  so will your attitude. See yourself as insufficient and you will cower in embarrassment.  See yourself as more than enough and you will walk in confidence.

I AM Laneen Haniah, and I approve this message!♡

#Perspective #Self-Image 

~ Insights from Dr. Intimacy ~ © 05/13 /2014

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Annual Heartbreak Day

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It’s finally over…

Millions around the world call it Valentines Day. It is a day that is set aside to honor and celebrate the special one you love — and for the special one you love to celebrate you. Everywhere you turn, there are roadside stands full of beautiful flowers and gifts. Every store greets you with displays of chocolates and balloons. The media is littered with romantic jewelry ads; engagement ring ads being the worse offenders. Restaurants, concerts and hotels are booked to capacity, as couples celebrate having each other. Those fortunate enough to have someone to share this special day with, brim with excitement at the thought of the romance and love the energy of this day produces.

However, for many others, what some know as “Valentines Day” — is actually “Annual Heartbreak Day”.  While all of the attention surrounding this day produces sweet enthusiasm in the those who have someone to celebrate it with, it produces only painful heartache in others. For me, “Annual Heartbreak Day” is a bitter reminder of all of the unrequited love that I have rendered over the years. It is the taunting chant of the voice of abandonment. It is the agonizing realization and piercing awareness of my very aloneness.

This week leading up to Heartbreak Day, I had struggled terribly — to the point where I had to fight off three random panic attacks that came on, as I saw loving couples during my daily errands. I have been having a wonderful year. It has been one of the best years of my life. And yet I know that often times with me, a trigger like this can knock me off the path of my destiny and cause months of delay.

I have made so much progress this year and I know that during this time of redemption, I cannot afford to let the enemy use anything to take me down! The key to my overcoming was in sharing my heart out of my own brokenness. Thursday night and last night (Valentines night) in the midst of my own pain, I gave everything that I have to other people who were in pain. While I cried a river of tears inside, I caused others to be full of joy, hope and encouragement.

It has been four years since my marriage ended. Leaving that marriage, I never once looked back in regret. It was a prison of neglect and resentment. However, I never thought or could have imagined, standing before the judge on the day of my divorce that all these years later, I would still be a single woman. I have loved so many people, with so much passion and humility and  honor over the years. Excluding my children, I can’t say that anyone has ever fully reciprocated the love that I’ve given them, and that was especially the case with my ex-husband.

Yet, I have never been bitter or cynical about remarrying. Quite to the contrary, I have always believed the second time around would come quickly and restore my torn heart. But now, 4 years later, I have not been so hopeful. I do greatly treasure my position in the Body of Christ. I am so thankful that I have such value to the Kingdom. I know undoubtedly that I am a Mighty Woman of God. Yet in the natural, as a woman, I question my worth. I wonder why no man has ever claimed me as his special reward and made me his Queen.

I want more than anything, a chance to share the overwhelming wifely love and anointing that is ever brimming in my heart, but a man who truly loves, cherishes and honors me has remained elusive. I have only ever been used by men for their purposes of pleasure and advancement. And even those that I thought loved me, have proven in the end that they only loved the “idea of being with Dr. Intimacy”, but not the woman she operates through.

And yet, the victory is mine this morning. I woke up a virtuous woman whose worth is far above that of precious rubies. Instead of taking the love that The Father has placed in my heart and burying it; instead of saying, “until someone loves me, I can’t love anyone else”; instead of compromising my integrity and standards of righteousness, for the sake of falsely comforting my broken heart on one insignificant day created by the world — I shared my love freely, I overcame bitterness by blessing others and I stood in my righteousness and integrity.

Because I gave, more than two dozen people woke up this morning encouraged and happy and knowing that they are loved. Because I decided that even if no man finds me worth it, I still find others worth it. Even if I can’t receive the love I desire, I can still give someone else what they desire. So while there was no one here to keep  me warm last night and whisper sweet love into my ear, the images of loving others and the joy that they received warmed my heart. The hope of reaping a harvest kept my tears away.  And The Love and Approval of My Savior encouraged me to know that it’s always worth it to love and serve others.

Maybe this time next year, I will be waking up next to my new husband. However if not, I will wake up thinking about whoever it is that I shared The Love of The Father with the night before, and my pillow will not be soaked with tears, as in years past. So if like me, Valentines Day is actually Annual Heartbreak Day for you — I say to you, “keep your love in shape”. Go exercise the love you plan to give in a beautiful, Godly marriage one day. Go practice the service that you plan to one day give to your spouse. Stay focused on the love you can give to others, and before you know it, your tears will turn into joy!!!

In the power of His Love,

Prophetess Laneen “Dr. Intimacy” Haniah

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Worship from a Holistic Perspective –

Crushing the bonds of sexual perversion and healing the bonds of heart-2-heart love & intimacy.

http://www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2014 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright and legal notices on this page.

Watch “2014 — The Year of Dreams: Are You Registered?” on YouTube

If you had a tough year in 2013, you definitely want to watch this because 2014 is going to make you forget all your pain!!! HAPPY NEW YEAR AND HAPPY NEW LIFE to all of my friends and followers. I can’t wait to hear all of the wonderful testimonies that 2014 brings forth! Enjoy…

Get A Life!

I said, “Self.”

Self said, “Huh?”

I said, “Get a life.”

Self said, “Okay.”

So then we went and got one!

Don’t wait for some future “great happening” to live your life. LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST NOW!!! To everyone who thought you weren’t worth their time, to those who thought you weren’t good enough, to the ones who took you for granted for years — while you continually lowered your standard to accommodate their low opinion of you; while you continually lived outside of your glory to make their demeaning belittlement of you justifiable — Say to them, “I finally got a life! So if you think about coming to look for me now, tell yourself to go get one too!!!”

I’m speaking from experience, and I’m telling you — it feels great to be free of those who were hindering my progressive living! Get a life, make it count and don’t let anyone stop you from doing what matters to you!

#LovingMe #LovingThisLifeGodGaveMe #JoyInexplicable

~ Insights from Dr. Intimacy ~ © 12/15/2013

A Free Gift for My Bloggers!

Gift-BoxHi to all my blog supporters and followers, I want to share something with you that has been a blessing to me. It’s FREE stuff that you can only access through a private invitation, so here is my invitation to you. I hope you enjoy it as much as I have! Thanks for your faithful support.

Here’s the link. Check it out and tell me what you think. http://drintimacyministries.savingshighway.com/invite/id/24674Z2717

In the power of His Love,

Dr. Intimacy

2012 in Review for Insights from Dr. Intimacy Blog

Thanks to every one who made this one of the most popular blogs on the internet in 2012. May many more visitors be blessed in 2013! Here is a stats report that WordPress.com prepared, the 2012 annual report for this blog. Thanks again. Let’s keep it growing!

Here’s an excerpt:

4,329 films were submitted to the 2012 Cannes Film Festival. This blog had 34,000 views in 2012. If each view were a film, this blog would power 8 Film Festivals

Click here to see the complete report.

This Is My Story… The Testimony of Dr. Intimacy

Happy New Year to all of my readers and subbies! I pray that this short video will encourage you to overcome all in 2013 and pursue greatness – NO MATTER WHAT!!!

In the Power of LOVE,

Dr. Intimacy

The Conception of Dr. Intimacy – The Powerful Testimony of My Conversion

Wow it blew me away recording the powerful testimony of my life and conversion! Let us never forget where He has brought us from!

~Dr. Intimacy~

37 Years of “BUT GOD” Outcomes to Celebrate This Thanksgiving… HalleluYAH!

Over the next 24 hours, I want to dedicate my praise and thanksgiving to the top 37 “BUT GOD” outcomes in my life. I challenge you to make your own “BUT GOD” thanksgiving list according to the years of your life. It may humble and amaze you when you really sit back to meditate on all of the significant challenges and circumstances The Father has delivered you from. It makes the small stuff fade into insignificance and even the big mountains will begin to look like mole hills!!!

  1. My mother almost aborted me… BUT GOD!
  2. My daddy was a pimp that almost stayed around to infect — uh, I mean — “rasie” me… BUT GOD!
  3. The two people who molested and raped me when I was two could have killed me when they were finished with me… BUT GOD!
  4. The car that stopped an inch away from my body almost killed me when I was three… BUT GOD!
  5. The KKK almost caught me when I five, as they chased me down with ropes and knives in hand… BUT GOD!
  6. My sister was almost too afraid to tell Momma that the step daddy that I loved so much raped her, and he could have stayed around to do the same thing to me and my baby sister… BUT GOD!
  7. The fever of almost 109° almost killed me or left me brain dead just like “they” said it would… BUT GOD!
  8. I almost spent my life in a wheel chair from crippling Lupus pain… BUT GOD!
  9. I could have stayed in that mental institution for the rest of my life… BUT GOD!
  10.  After being raped and molested as a child, I could have been promiscuous at a much younger age… BUT GOD!
  11. I almost married my soul to satan in the practice of witchcraft that I was introduced to as a child… BUT GOD!
  12. I could have become a victim of human trafficking or a hardcore drug addict when I left home at 16… BUT GOD!
  13. I could have died, and very much wanted to, when I abruptly stopped taking the medications at 17 that had kept me alive for nine years… BUT GOD!
  14.  Any of the three separate times a gun was held to my held head, the trigger could have been pulled… BUT GOD!
  15.  One of the jealous girlfriends or wives of the men I gave my body to could have killed or maimed me… BUT GOD!
  16. I could have been killed on the streets by the rival drug gang who took out many of my crew… BUT GOD!
  17. I could almost spent 10 to 20 years in prison when busted in a major federal drug sting at 18 years old… BUT GOD!
  18. I almost never gave birth as a teenage mother to the son that got me off the streets… BUT GOD!
  19. I could have been raped and killed by a serial killer in my days of stripping and prostitution… BUT GOD!
  20. I almost went away to become a Vegas strip prostitute with the friend who ended up with AIDS… BUT GOD!
  21. When the domestic abuser that I allowed into my home crushed my soul and broke my bones, he could have killed me… BUT GOD!
  22. I could have stayed in a situation of domestic abuse for 10 years like my mother… BUT GOD!
  23. I almost committed the murder-suicide of me and my toddler son, just like I was planning to do… BUT GOD!
  24. I could have never cried out to Jesus (YAHashua) to save me… BUT GOD!
  25. All of the contaminated vessels of perversion that molested and mishandled me in the church almost scared me away from ministry forever… BUT GOD!
  26. I almost backslid forever and never came back after falling… BUT GOD!
  27. I could’ve been pregnant by him… BUT GOD!
  28. After a life full of sexual sin and promiscuity, I could have and should have contracted HIV and other incurable diseases… BUT GOD!
  29.  I almost married him instead of the man that became the father of my seven children… BUT GOD!
  30. I could have died giving birth to anyone of my children, just like “they” said I could… BUT GOD! “They” also said I would never be able to have children… double BUT GOD!
  31. My suicide attempt was almost successful… BUT GOD!
  32. The witch doctor that paid thousands of dollars on spells to have me killed almost danced on my grave… BUT GOD!
  33. I almost lost my mind from the weight of poverty and becoming homeless with five young children while pregnant… BUT GOD!
  34. Anyone of my children could have been deformed, maimed, sick, in a major accident, diagnosed with and defeated by major illness, etc… BUT GOD!
  35. I could have blamed God and cursed Him when I found out 4 of my 7 seven children had been sexually molested… BUT GOD!
  36. I could have stayed trapped in a marriage where I wasn’t loved or never recovered from the divorce… BUT GOD!
  37. I could have died in my sins, never receiving the grace and work of the cross… BUT GOD… BUT JESUS… BUT YAHASHUA… NOTHING BUT THE BLOOD!

I could go on and on, but I will stop myself because my family wants to feast on Thanksgiving foods, lol. One more for you for the road though – I could be spending thanksgiving alone… BUT GOD! No matter how dysfunctional your family is, remember that you could be destitute and alone. As long as you all still have breath in your body, there is the hope of redemption and reconciliation because Yahweh loves creating “BUT GOD” outcomes that bring Him GLORYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HALLELUYAH!

~Daily Insights from Dr. Intimacy~ © 11/22/2012

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Comfort V. Healing

When I was a baby girl my legs were severely deformed. They were bent in at the knees at such a sharp angle that I was crippled and unable to walk. Thankfully the condition was able to be corrected through the use of full leg braces that I would need to wear every day, 24 hours a day for about 18 months. As I wore the braces the healing process was going along well and at 3 years of age I walked for the first time. Unfortunately the braces were painful and uncomfortable to wear and my mother says I whined and complained constantly. Eventually, after only 6 months of wearing them, she choose to abort the process so that I would be comfortable.

Although I was able to walk after that, my legs were still deformed. All throughout my life I have struggled to walk and I was teased mercilessly growing up because of my partially deformed legs. My insecurity about my legs added to the low self-esteem that led me to dress provocatively as I got older. By show-casing my sexuality in my dress, it took the negative attention off of my legs and placed some “positive attention” on my feminine beauty. I liked the attention so much that I eventually became an exotic dancer, which led to my involvement in prostitution.

 Just imagine… One year of discomfort could have spared me from a life time of severe emotional scars and painful memories to bear. Sometimes what we have to go through to get truly healed is uncomfortable and maybe even downright painful. Many times in life, when spiritual and emotional deformities cripple our ability to walk in Righteousness and destiny, we opt for comfort instead of healing, due to the difficulty of completing the healing process. If you keep facing the same trial over and over again you need to be honest with yourself about how you are processing through your emotional deformities. Are you repeatedly aborting God’s prescribed healing process in order to comfort yourself?  Opt for permanent healing instead of temporary comfort so that you can not struggle to walk, but run and soar into the fullness of your destiny!

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.

My New Year’s Declaration!!!

MY NEW YEAR’S DECLARATION!

I PREVAIL AGAINST HELL
IN TWO THOUSAND TWELVE (2012) 
I CHOOSE TO LIVE FREE 
OF SHAME AND MISERY
I WON’T SELL MYSELF SHORT
FOR THOSE THAT CONTORT
MY VALUE AND GREATNESS
THAT’S WHY I MUST BREAK THIS
DEADLY CYCLE OF PAIN
THAT HAS BROUGHT ME ILL GAIN
I SOAR ON TOWARD SUCCESS
CHOOSING A PATH YAH CAN BLESS!
I HEAR THE CLOCK GO TICK TOCK
TIME TO MOVE EVERY ROAD BLOCK
AND PIT FALL THAT TRIPPED ME UP, 
PREVENTING ME FROM MOVING UP
BUT NOW I SUP
WITH THE ONE WHOSE LOVE IS TRUE
I’VE REMAINED THE APPLE OF HIS EYE
EVEN WHEN I CHOSE TO WORSHIP YOU!
HIS FAITHFULNESS HAS REMAINED THE SAME
HOW FOOLISH OF ME TO FORGET MY NAME
FIRST NAME CHILD
SECOND NAME OF GOD
LAST NAME EVERLASTING
HIS TRUTH IS CONTRASTING
ALL THE LIES I CONCEIVED
THE FALSEHOODS I EMBRACED AND BELIEVED
THEREFORE I CANNOT BLAME YOU
FOR WHAT I WENT THROUGH
AND GETTING A DIFFERENT RESULT THIS YEAR
IS ALL ABOUT WHAT I DO

SO I DECLARE LOUDLY AGAIN
WITH THE DEFINITENESS OF MY PEN
I PREVAIL AGAINST HELL 
IN TWO THOUSAND TWELVE (2012)
I CHOOSE TO LIVE FREE
OF SIN AND MISERY!!!

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.

What Are Your Surroundings Saying About Your Inner Man?

This is an excerpt from a previous blog written on October 11, 2009

Six months ago my house was so clean that you could eat out of my toilets. My papers were neatly filed on my desk. My clothes were categorized in my closet according to season. Each of my 7 children’s clothing items were labeled with their initials and folded precisely in their own drawers. Whatever I needed, I could easily find because everything had a place. Anything that was out-of-place was immediately spotted because disorder is so apparent within an orderly environment. Yes order emanated from every nook and cranny of my home, including every closet, under every bed and even in the garage.

Last week tears welled up in my eyes as frustration set in on me. My desk was so messy that I couldn’t even find something that I laid on it just moments earlier. The floors were so dirty that we needed to wear shoes in the house. My children’s clothes were scattered everywhere: under beds, in toy chests, under the couch and in drawers that they did not belong in. I couldn’t find anything without going on a scavenger hunt through piles and piles of clothes, papers and toys! Junk ( or what appeared to be junk due to the disregard with which it was treated) was shoved into every nook and cranny of the house. There was total disorder, complete chaos.

Today I spent 7 hours cleaning my room up. As I was sitting here at my clean desk reflecting on the labor I did today, which only got my room about 70% restored to what it was, I had an epiphany. My surroundings were a reflection of the state of my inner being. You see six months ago, I experienced a life-changing trauma. It was a devastating event that I was not even sure I would survive emotionally, as depression was suffocating me and insanity offered itself as a welcomed escape. Before that heart-stopping moment, I was in a place of total peace. I was operating in my purpose, sure of my destiny and enjoying the effectiveness of my existence on earth. But that all suddenly changed when I learned that one of my children was sexually assaulted by a family member. I was thrown into confusion, anger, sadness, etc…

Little by little and day by day, as I slipped deeper and deeper into inner turmoil and chaos; my surroundings began to change. It was not intentional. I tried to keep it all together as best as I could. I was still cleaning and it seemed that I was doing the same things that I had always done, but I wasn’t getting the same results. I realize now that I could have bought the best cleaning products on the market and cleaned daily. It wouldn’t have mattered. My soul was emitting chaotic energy and that energy controlled the temperature of my environment. As I look around me right now, I have those tears in my eyes again. But they are not tears of frustration this time. Instead they are tears of relief.

My surroundings in this almost clean room speak of the peace that is being restored and the inner order that is returning. I am not 100% quite yet, maybe only 70% like my room. Nonetheless I am pressing my way back into the energy of God’s grace. His rhythm is harmonizing with my soul and I see myself not only being restored, but becoming better than I ever was before!

What are your surroundings saying about your inner man?

In the Power of Love,

 Dr. Intimacy

 Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

 www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.

From Friendship to Fornication: Setting the Captives Free!

This is a story from my past…

It was just another night in the life of a broken woman – a night that had ended like many others before it. I was on the bed with my face in my pillow sobbing, soiled with the stains of sin’s residue. The events that led up to this night had begun six months prior when the assistant pastor of my church asked me for my phone number. He said that he was going to give it to his wife because he saw that I really needed some help. I had been out of church for quite some time. The filth of my spirit was way beyond obvious. I was annoyed with his request. I didn’t want help. I was bitter and not interested in being better. His persistence won out though and I finally gave him the number.

Unfortunately, his wife never saw that number. That very same day he called me six times. And he called me every day thereafter – at my house, on my cell phone, at my job – he wouldn’t stop calling me. I really felt that he was a dork at first. I used to do mean things like leave him on hold for 10 minutes just for the fun of it. He would actually wait too. He was really strung out on me and I was disgusted by it, but I found it amusing. I was too deep in sin to realize how evil it was for me to entertain this man’s pursuits of me. What he was up to was apparent to me. He wasn’t the first “man of the cloth” to run after me. These things never ended well, but I was cocky. I thought I could handle it this time.

In the mean time God began to soften and heal my calloused heart. He was restoring me from my backslidden state. Before long I found myself completely detached from the friends and life of sin that had become familiar to me. Suddenly, this dorky pastor was my only friend. Things took an unexpected turn. I began to look forward to his phone calls. I was feeling uncomfortable with the relationship because I was really growing spiritually and I did not want to mess up again. I always did just fine as a Christian until it came to the dreaded ‘S’ word. Yeah, that three-letter expletive ‘sex’.

I decided that I did not want to speak to him anymore, but he insisted that we were just friends. He said to me, “Preachers need friends too.” Soon, phone calls turned into visits and visits turned into a full-fledged obsession. I knew this couldn’t end well. I asked The Lord to intervene. I didn’t know what else to do. I begged “my friend” to please stay away from me before “something bad happened”. But he didn’t listen. He would come to my home and literally cry tears when I refused to let him in. Did I mention that he was married? To a beautiful and anointed sister at the church who happened to be pregnant at the time? It was really a bad situation.

After much begging and pleading with God that He would make this man stop coming to my house, after tearfully praying that He would not let me fall into sexual sin again – it seemed that my prayers had fallen on deaf ears. After six months of a purely “innocent friendship” there I was on my bed crying. The ‘S’ word had happened. He had to go home to his wife, and I was left to deal with the shame and consequent self-hatred. We continued to be together for a time longer and I thought that I would never be restored after this incident. I was just about to walk away from the faith again when my Heavenly Father stopped me.

God delivered me out of that relationship and set me on my destined course to set satan’s captives free. From that time on the Lord began to teach me all about sexual perversion and the spirits that oppress people influencing them commit such acts. It was a painful situation but it was purposeful. I am thankful and that is why I am writing this blog. I want to help people who are struggling with sexual sin. I want to teach you what I have learned about true deliverance and authentic intimacy. Together we will take back what the enemy has stolen and learn how to Love Free!

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.

Who Is Dr. Intimacy?

It always amuses me when I observe the surprising look on people’s faces when they hear me introduced as “Dr. Intimacy”. This is especially true when it comes to males who find me attractive. I can see the alarms go off in the thoughts of those I encounter — alarms of judgment, fear, sexual lust and much more. Let me make it clear; I do discuss sex quite a bit on my blog, in my books and in life in general. However, the core of my heart is illuminated with the LOVE Nature of The Creator and the True Intimacy that the authentic Love Nature of God produces in people.

Sex is a natural desire in every human being because it is the ultimate physical expression of what we think love is. However, always remember that having sex can never be used to create intimacy. Sex is either an expression of intimacy that already exists, or an exposure of intimacy that is not present. “Intimacy” is not something that you do, it is rather something that you are; intimacy not an activity; it is a nature. Allowing the Love Nature of God to illuminate your being will cause you to experience relationships with people and sex with your significant other like never before.

Understanding this, is a beginning to understanding who “Dr. Intimacy” really is. I’m not here to teach you the physical mechanics of sex; I am here to teach you how to be FREE in intimacy – Intimacy with God, yourself, your lover, your family, your friends and this world that we live in. On this blog we will be learning the nature, exploring the expression and dispelling the fears of authentic love – guiding us through the experience of  “Becoming Intimacy”.

The Naked Truth About Sex and all issues related to intimacy and relationships will be discussed openly and frequently because sex is the physical equivalent of spiritual intimacy. Therefore, through exploring sexual relations we will begin to unravel the mysteries of intimacy. We will explore scripture as well. The Bible is The Creator’s Love Letter to His Creation. He is LOVE. Through studying the Words that He has shared with us, we will understand more about how to conceive His Love Nature in our own lives and give birth to true intimacy.  The Bible is a road map for our journey and I will be your tour guide, unleashing the modern-day relevance of scripture as it relates to true intimacy.

You might be wondering how I became so involved in this topic.  I will be using this blog to post personal stories, testimonials, and bits of my autobiography — whatever I feel led to share — from time to time.  You might read some things that shock you. Believe me, I’m not trying to shock you or impress you. As the Bible clearly states, we overcome satan by the Blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony! (Rev 12:11). This is my only agenda in sharing my testimony. I want you to know that I am speaking from experience and not looking down on anyone from a platform of judgement and disgust. As I share my life with you, it will become clear why I became so passionate about this topic. To get to know me better visit the “Who Is Dr. Intimacy?” category. Feel free to leave your comments.

In the Power of Love,

 Dr. Intimacy

 Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

 www.drintimacy.com

Copyright © 2011 by Laneen A. Haniah “Dr. Intimacy”. All rights reserved. Please see full copyright notice on front page for more info.

Why I Believe In Network Marketing

MLM pays! I took this picture at my company conference over the weekend. This is my mentor’s Rolls Royce, Mr. Holton Buggs. He is teaching me the principles of success so I can earn what I need to be free. I don’t want a Rolls Royce but I do want to be able to buy a needy family a car. And  hey, if I can afford a Rolls how many reliable vehicles could I buy for the needy? Getting into this company changed my life forever. It gave me the time freedom to be here available to minister to your needs. Don’t let someone else’s ignorant negativity talk you out of the opportunity of a lifetime. Multi-level marketing is not a scam. Network Marketing has created more millionaires than any other industry in history. Here are 10 facts about MLMs that you should know before you close the door to a money and time freedom opportunity that could literally save your life just as it did mine!

1. You are qualified to start today!  Unlike a traditional job no one will disqualify you due to lack of education or tell you to come back after you get your certification when you want to get started! You don’t need any special degree or qualifications to start your own MLM business. Unlike most traditional jobs, you can get started without any special prior experience. You don’t need any sells training or experience or any networking experiencing to start your own MLM business.

2. Your time belongs to you! Unlike a traditional job you can set your own hours. Don’t think that you don’t have time to start a successful MLM business. Although you will have to put in a lot of hours if you want to become wealthy through network marketing, you can start earning money in most MLM companies putting in as little time as 2 hours per week and work in more hours as you choose.

3. You don’t have to be wealthy or take out a loan to get started! Unlike a traditional job, career or business where you have to invest thousands or even tens of thousands of dollars in education and start-up capital to be successful, most MLMs have inexpensive start-up options for those that are struggling financially. You can get started in my company for around $50 bucks!

4. Retire in just a few years instead of a few decades! On a traditional job you have to work 30 to 40 years before you can retire; to receive only 40% of what you were earning before retirement – that is if the company doesn’t fire you before you have a chance to retire with full benefits! MLMs are not get rich quick schemes. Most of them have to be worked diligently for 2 to 5 years in order to earn retirement income. However let’s put that into perspective: 40 to 60 hours per week, for 40 years, to retire on 40% of your income, which will no longer be paid once you and your spouse both pass away — or 15 to 20 hours per week; for 2 to 5 years; to retire with 5 figure monthly residual income that you can leave as an inheritance to your children and grand children when you die? Hmmm… really, what makes more sense?

5. A pyramid is the strongest structure in existence; make it work in your favor! A traditional corporation is the most diabolical pyramid structure in existence. You have one founder or CEO who benefits the most, a handful of top-level executives under him, a small army of under-paid middle management employees under the execs, and then a sea of miserable, over-worked employees at the bottom that are selling the hours of their lives away to make the CEO at the top rich! You see the people on the bottom of a corporate pyramid will never move to the top where the CEO is; they are stuck there as long as they want to keep that JOB (Just Over Broke). MLMs have gotten a bad rap for being “pyramids”, but a networking pyramid is unequivocally better than any corporate pyramid because you are never “stuck” at the bottom. In an MLM, the people who work the system most effectively are the ones that move to the top. You can join 10 years into a company’s existence and in a year’s time be earning more than a top income earner that was there from day one. Don’t be stuck at the bottom of a corporate pyramid, move to the top of an MLM pyramid!

6. You handle your own money and invest or save it the way you want to! There are many traditional corporations that have come under fire lately for mishandling funds in such a way that hurt their employees. Mishandling of 401k and retirement fund money has left people flat broke after decades of saving for financial security in their old age. The truth is that you never know what is happening to your money when you put it in the hands of a corporate stranger whose agenda is never to make you financially secure, but is always to make his or her position with the CEO of the company secure by making that person even wealthier. So it seems like corporate jobs are much riskier “schemes” than MLMs. What makes an MLM illegal is when there is no legitimate product or service being offered by the company and the distributors are paid only to recruit other distributors. However the majority of MLMs are legitimate companies that offer in-demand products and services that the public wants or needs. Making the product or service available to the public through a networking platform is simply a method of advertising that enables the people who enjoy the use of said products or services to earn income through sharing them. You make the money and you keep the money; investing, saving and/or spending it when and how you choose.

7. More available tax write-offs means keeping more of your hard-earned money! The average traditional job offers very few tax benefits. However, by starting your own MLM business you get to take advantage of more than 400 tax write-offs available to small business owners. You can actually write off the cost of fuel, airline tickets and meals when you travel for business. Part of your mortgage and utilities can be written off and so much more. This means that you get to keep more of your money in your pocket!

8. Travel freely and still make money! Many people would love a job that allows them to travel, but most traditional jobs keep you stuck in a stationary place for many years. Inactivity causes health problems such as obesity, poor circulation, carpel tunnel syndrome and so many others. But with an MLM business you can travel anywhere you want to and build your MLM business. You can even introduce your MLM business to your hometown where possibly no one has ever heard of it and enjoy major profits from the benefit of “first movers advantage”. Stay active, live healthy, enjoy traveling and get paid to do it – then write it off!

9. Unlimited income potential to get paid what you are actually worth! On a traditional job there is a cap on your income potential. No matter how hard you work your set wage or salary won’t allow you to make over a certain amount of money. You can work the hardest on your job and get paid the least.  You can come early and stay late and see no difference in your pay check. The average annual income in America is $38,000 per year. The average income for home-based business owners is $60,000 per year. You see in most MLMs there is unlimited income potential. If you only want to work hard enough to supplement your income with $10,000 a year you can do that or you can work extra hard for a few years and make 20 million dollars a year. There is no limit to the money you can earn in MLM and you get to decide how much effort you want to put into reaching your financial goal.

10. World Class training and personal development to help you realize your full potential in all areas of life! On a traditional job your personal development would lead to you believing in your own ability so much so that you finally wake up and realize that you are not going to keep selling your time to make some corporate fat cat rich, while you only get paid 10% of your actual worth and either end up dead or dead broke by the time you are 65! Too much personal development will lead to you  calling in well, “Well… I’m not coming in anymore!” LOL. Therefore a corporation is not going to invest time and money into your personal development or even encourage it! However, in a network marketing company your personal development will lead to you successfully setting and achieving  higher financial goals for yourself. The more money you earn in an MLM, the more the company earns as well. Your personal success in not a threat to the founder of an MLM company the way it is in a traditional corporation, which is why you can look forward to free or inexpensive world-class training offered by your MLM company. After spending a couple of years with your chosen company, you will understand the principles of success and be developed enough to achieve whatever you set your mind to for the rest of your life. The personal development you achieve, will always out weigh the value of the money you earn in a good MLM company.

With these truths established, why has networking gotten such a bad rap? Because people are lazy and don’t stick with the company’s system long enough to see a return on their investment. Then they spread the word that “it didn’t work”. The truth is “they didn’t work”! But unlike a traditional job where getting fired means the end of your relationship with that company, no one can fire you from your MLM business except you and therefore no one can stop you from re-hiring yourself! If you have tried before and failed, it is only because you expected “overnight success”. You have worked on your job for years and you are not rich, yet you quit an MLM business after the first month because you are not rich? Not a very fair demand on MLM when you look at it that way is it? No worries though; this is the most forgiving industry in business. You can start again today with your old company or with a new one and still succeed as if you never left. Or if you have never tried before, now you can start with realistic expectations.

Now of course not all companies are created equally and there are those that are better than others. I have been with my company, OrGano Gold, for 2 years now. It is the fastest growing company in momentum in the world right now. By comparison our distributors make more money and have more active team members than any other MLM company around. Please check it out. You never know if this may be just what you have been praying for. If you are interested, you and I will be able to work together personally and you will not only be helping your own finances but will also be sowing into this ministry by helping me financially and keeping me free to serve the public with the revelations God has given me.

Check out my company at this web link www.energizegourmetcoffee.com or see the ‘Free Coffee and Easy Cash‘ page on this blog. If you don’t think the business opportunity is for you, please consider buying some product from my website. It is a great product and will make a great Christmas gift too. I can show you how to get it at wholesale as well if you are interested. If you have been blessed by what I do on this blog then show your support!

In the Power of Love,

Dr. Intimacy

Prolific Author and Speaker Specializing in Sex, Intimacy and Relationships from a Holistic Perspective – Spirit, Soul & Body

http://www.drintimacy.com

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